By Lisa Copeland, Guest Contributor
Often women come to work with me when they have hit a wall in their dating lives.
Things aren’t going well.
They aren’t meeting the guys they want to meet and even worse…no one is noticing them online or in the real world.
I want you to know this happens to every woman at every level of dating. Believe me, I see it over and over again.
But when it happens, it doesn’t feel good, and what ends up happening is you start blaming yourself because nothing you’re doing seems to be working.
In today's blog, I'm want to share 3 tips that show you how to get out of a dating rut and back into the dating game.
Tip # 1 is to realize that you’re not alone!
When things don’t go the way you think they should, you tend to think everyone else is out there dating good guys and that they're doing great.
You might feel like you're the only one who is struggling and frustrated.
Well, that’s simply not true.
Why? Most women put their best self out there for the world to see.
Think about how many times you kept it a secret when things weren’t going well.
I see it all the time ― women around the country, around the world― it happens to everyone.
Understand that even though it looks like everybody else is out there dating amazing men and you feel like the only one who isn’t…. it’s not the case.
Understand that and have some compassion for yourself.
Tip # 2 ― It’s time to build your confidence back up.
When it feels like nothing is happening in your dating life, it sometimes makes you feel depressed or has you doubt your attractiveness to men.
The number one thing that needs to happen is building your dating confidence back up.
In fact, this one thing touches every single aspect of your dating life.
Confidence touches how you will get out there and talk to the men you want to date.
Confidence affects how you appear to men.
Confidence affects the men you want to be attracting.
It affects everything about your dating life so it’s important that you keep your confidence really high.
I don’t mean acting superior, conceited or egotistical ― it’s an inner knowing that you’re an amazing woman just as you are!
Tip # 3 is that we have to get you off the dime by taking action!
If you stay at home thinking woe is me, or you sit around with friends complaining there are no good men out there to date…well, there comes a point where it has to end.
You realize now that you’re not the only one, that it’s temporary.
You’ve built up your confidence, so now it’s time to get going and take massive action that’s going to get you out there dating the guys you want and the relationship you desire.
Think about this… What did you used to do that got you dates with good guys, that you have somehow stopped doing?
Did you used to try different online dating sites (You can check out some of my favorites here) and you stopped?
Did you talk to men in the real world, but then you stopped?
Did you take classes about dating or even get group or one on one coaching then stopped using what you learned?
Notice what you used to do that you’re no longer doing and then do that again.
Now I’d like you to think about what you are resisting.
You know that there is something that you should be doing and if you’ve coached with me or bought any of my products, I am certainly giving you plenty of ideas and tools to try.
What have you been resisting?
Have you resisted trying out that new dating site?
Are you resisting flirting with men that look interesting to you? (The Fun Path to Mr. Right Program is a complete program that teaches you how to play and win at the dating game)
Write the things down that you are resisting and then take action on those.
Your Assignment For Getting The Guy You Want
You can have all these great ideas but you do not get results from things you do not implement.
This is what I tell my clients all the time.
The difference between a successful person and a person who struggles is that the successful person will do what others aren’t willing to do.
This is part of the mindset to get you out of your rut, past your obstacles and into a relationship with your Mr. Right.
Use the 3 tips we just went through and put them to work.
Once you understand that you’re not the only one who gets in a dating rut, then you build your confidence back up and start taking action to change your dating life, you’ll see everything start to happen for you.
Give it a try and let me know how it works for you!
Until next time~
Lisa Copeland - Author
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.