Grandparents have a special relationship with their grandchildren. They are beacons of kindness and wisdom, with years of experience to reflect upon. So it is no wonder their grown children often turn to them for parenting advice. When tough or unpleasant subjects come up, and communication lines between you and your child fall short, it's time to bring in the big guns. Driving, dating, money management, and education and career are four topics that might go over better with a grandmother's finesse.
Driving can be a difficult subject for parents to broach. You really want your kids to have their independence, but you also want to make sure they are prepared for the realities of operating a vehicle. You know better than anyone else how often your concerns fall on deaf ears (your kids already know everything, right?) so perhaps it would be a good time to let Grandma take the wheel. Your daughter may be more receptive to taking practice tests online if it is suggested by a source that is not you!
Your mother probably has some great recipes for spaghetti sauce, peach cobbler and chicken soup, but she also probably has recipes for inedible things like romantic relationships. If dating is another conversation that is a bit uncomfortable for you to address with your son or daughter, then pass that torch on. Grandparents have seen and heard it all (probably from you!) and are at times better equipped to offer sound advice that is reasonable without coming off as irrational. Those little gemstones of wisdom, like treating one's boyfriend or girlfriend with respect, expressing emotions, and the hard lesson of knowing when to walk away may have more impact coming from a trusted grandparent.
Money management is one of the most difficult life lessons to instill in a child. While you are focusing on setting clear guidelines for your kid to follow and explaining the dos and don'ts of spending — do your chores to earn money, don't spend your money all at once — all of your sage knowledge may just seem like another set of rules to your child. But if grandma steps in and approaches the topic from a different perspective, your child could be more receptive. Grandma has watched the stock market rise and fall, observed real estate property value increase and decrease, and is the best at stretching a dollar. Her advice on money management may prove invaluable.
Education and career
When it comes to your child making hard decisions about which career or education path to pursue, Grandma can again come to the rescue. A grandmother has a unique perception of her grandchildren; she notices little quirks, growth spurts, hopes and fears that you may not see right away. Grandparents are living, breathing reference guides of their grandkids' preferences and dislikes, and Grandma can use this insight to help guide your son or daughter to an education or career that best suits your child.
Grandmas have as much wisdom as they do love to share with their grandkids. When it comes to discussing those challenging and awkward subjects with your kids, sometimes, Grandma knows best.