By Lisa Copeland
Growing up, we weren’t taught who men really are and what makes them tick. I know I wasn’t, and in the past I made huge mistakes that ended up emasculating men. It’s what led me to help women really understand who men are…especially men over fifty. That’s why I wrote these eight tips about men you can use right away in your own dating life. These tips have made a huge difference in my both my life and the lives of my clients.
Tip #1 – Appreciate a man for who he is.
Men are wonderful but they aren’t women. They don’t think the same way we do, and men don’t communicate like women do either. This means don’t expect a man to act like a woman or you’re guaranteed to be disappointed.
Tip #2 – Men over 50 are very masculine and they love when you bring this trait out in them.
Men have no interest in competing with you and that’s exactly what they see it as when you approach them as an Alpha Female. For a man, this is like dating another man and he isn’t interested in dating men. The key is learning to come into your true feminine power…one that compliments a man’s masculine power. When you do, he’ll jump through hoops to make you happy.
Tip #3 – Men show you love with their actions.
Hollywood has messed with our heads on this one. On the big screen, they show us men like Tom Cruise’s character in the movie, Jerry McGuire. Think back to when he professed his love with the romantic words, “You complete me.” Real men show you their love by cutting your grass and giving you their coat when you’re cold. If you expect love to come in words…you could be waiting a very long time.
Tip #4 – Men want to give to you.
Let them open the door for you or change that light bulb you can’t reach. It makes them happy to please you. All they want in return is to be appreciated and thanked. If you do this, they’ll do anything you want, which leads us to Tip #5.
Tip #5 – Don’t criticize the job a man is doing for you.
He’s doing his best and yes, you may be able to do it better or faster than he can but don’t… It makes him feel emasculated. If he’s offered to do something for you, allow him to do it his way. Otherwise, the next time you ask for help, he’ll tell you to hire a handyman. He doesn’t want the aggravation of not being able to do anything right for you.
Tip #6 – When you’re dating an over 50’s man, don’t place demands on how he must be or what he has to do in order to date you.
Men tell me again and again how much they dislike profiles of women who demand nothing less than the best restaurant or a certain salary to date them. Men have had enough demands put on them at work and from their ex’s. The last thing they want to do is meet yours before you’ve even met.
Tip #7 – Don’t try and remodel a man by making him your pet project.
Either accept him for who he is or let him go and move on.
Tip #8 – A lot of men over 50 are pretty insecure when it comes to asking you out.
Having been rejected time and time again by so many women, they aren’t too quick about putting themselves back in a vulnerable position unless it feels safe to do so. If you like a man, encourage him with eye contact, a warm smile or a flirt online to let him know you’re interested. Remember, men weren’t given a dating rulebook with their divorce papers either. So be kind to them and understand that as scared as you feel about dating, most of them are too.
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Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. Her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your free report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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A big obstacle to finding love after 50 happens when you’re NOT putting yourself in places where you can be seen and found by available men on a DAILY BASIS!
Men can’t find you when you’re hiding every night at home.
I know it feels great after a long day at work to snuggle up with a good book, your fave TV show or your cat or dog for some unconditional loving.
But you need exposure to men, whether in person or online and it’s not happening if this is your nightly routine.
No one is going to know you’re even available and even worse, they can’t find you.
Women tell me all the time how amazed they are by a girlfriend who gets a zillion dates while they are struggling to get one date with a good man.
We’ve been facing a dilemma of late. How do we refer to the men we date when out in public and we want to introduce them?
US: Oh hi, Mrs. Wagner, this is my boyfriend, Bob. (At which point, she looks at us incredulously because he’s not a boy – in his 60s in Barbara’s case, or in his 70s, as in Margaret’s. And he’s certainly more than a friend.)
It was so easy when we were younger… but wasn’t everything? Long before we turned 50, he was a boyfriend and before that a date. Now that we are skipping down the path of senior citizenship or have arrived, the term sounds so teenager-ish, like trying to wear our skirts too short or our hair too long.
For most women, finding the right guy after 50 can be frustrating and tiresome.
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