Ask Honey: 3 Steps To Make Decisions

Our lives are shaped by decisions, but making ones we won’t regret is easier said than done. As mothers and grammas the “value of careful thought” must be drummed into our children and grandchildren’s heads as well as our own, at times. My motto is: Think twice before acting once. And remember to practice what we preach. Here are three tricks of how to make a decision.

1. MAKE A LIST

In one column, write down the positives of the decision you are making. For example, if you are debating whether to move to a new city, being closer to, say, a grandchild, would be a positive. In the other column, write down the negatives; such as leaving behind the home you love. Then, compare the two lists. I believe a list is extremely important, because you are putting your thoughts down on paper. It is “your list” to look at, think about and rearrange after studying them.

2. READ YOUR LIST ALOUD

Hearing yourself speak what you wrote clarifies your written thoughts. Try it. When I do this, I have a much clearer idea of my thoughts and often make changes based on them.

3. SEEK OUT A FAMILY MEMBER, RESPECTED FRIEND OR PROFESSIONAL

When making major decisions do not feel insecure about asking for advice. It is the secure person who questions. Teach this to your children and grandchildren.

I hope this helps. I know you must have some solutions of how to make decisions to add to mine. Please let me hear from you.