Ask Honey: What Should My Step-Grandkids Call Me?

Dear Honey,  My stepson was an adult before I joined the family.  Now he has kids and my husband is calling me Grandma, but I don't know if I am really a Grandma. His son calls me Jenni and introduces me by name, not Grandma and I would like my husband to stop pushing the Grandma bit.  I don't mind, but what is the proper etiquette in something like this?

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Dear Gramma,

You are 100 percent right, gramma. There is no proper etiquette. There is emotional etiquette and you are emotionally mature about your thoughts.  I understand that your husband loves you and wants the children and your stepson to love you too. Explain to your husband that they will love you just as much and probably more calling you Jenni!