GMS: How to Keep a Relationship Alive

By Susan "Honey" Good

Our lives are filled with several types of relationships. Let’s talk about the relationships with our partners, children, grandchildren and girlfriends. This will be a short survey on what I have learned over the years. Here are some keywords that keep my relationships alive and well!


  1. Attention: Your partner should always come first. I learned this from my mother as I observed how she treated my father. He came first, even ahead of my brother and me. She was correct – we eventually left the nest.
  2. Romance: Tell your husband you love him. I tell my husband I love him every day and many days I tell him more than once. Also, dress for your husband.
  3. Praise: Men like to have their mane patted. Come to think of it, everyone does. Give praise.
  4. Appreciation: Don’t take anything for granted. I thank my husband for something daily, even if it’s the smallest thing.
  5. Argue: Fight fair!
  6. Love: Hold hands at the movies. Kiss one another goodnight.


  1. Unconditional love: GRANDmothers are safe love, always. Be a safe haven for your grandchildren.
  2. Time and not money: Send emails and texts during the week, especially if you live apart. Be the one to make the phone call every Sunday so it becomes a habit. Money will bring love for a moment, but time will bring love for a lifetime.
  3. Support: Always validate your grandchildren’s feelings. You must think about how you felt at their age.
  4. Pass on family traditions and history: Grandchildren love to learn about the history and traditions of their family. Tell them stories with a message and make the stories exciting or thought provoking.
  5. Stay young at heart: You shouldn’t act like an old fuddy-duddy with your grandchildren.  You should be up to date on fashion, technology and their special interests.
  6. Values and wisdom: This is your ultimate responsibility as a GRANDmother. Leave your grandchildren with valuable knowledge. They will remember what you taught them.


  1. Trust: Prove you are trustworthy. The normal rule of thought, “If you tell one person, it is no longer a secret.” Prove your trustworthiness to your friends.
  2. Maintenance: Make an effort. Remember, friendships take a lot of tender loving care.
  3. Share: Share activities and intellectual interests with your close friends.
  4. Like-minded: Choose women who have similar qualities of character.
  5. Self-disclosure:  Disclose who you really are. It is a vulnerable feeling, but will create a true bond.

Do something good today — tell those you care about that you love them.