By Susan "Honey" Good
Our lives are filled with several types of relationships. Let’s talk about the relationships with our partners, children, grandchildren and girlfriends. This will be a short survey on what I have learned over the years. Here are some keywords that keep my relationships alive and well!
- Attention: Your partner should always come first. I learned this from my mother as I observed how she treated my father. He came first, even ahead of my brother and me. She was correct – we eventually left the nest.
- Romance: Tell your husband you love him. I tell my husband I love him every day and many days I tell him more than once. Also, dress for your husband.
- Praise: Men like to have their mane patted. Come to think of it, everyone does. Give praise.
- Appreciation: Don’t take anything for granted. I thank my husband for something daily, even if it’s the smallest thing.
- Argue: Fight fair!
- Love: Hold hands at the movies. Kiss one another goodnight.
CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN
- Unconditional love: GRANDmothers are safe love, always. Be a safe haven for your grandchildren.
- Time and not money: Send emails and texts during the week, especially if you live apart. Be the one to make the phone call every Sunday so it becomes a habit. Money will bring love for a moment, but time will bring love for a lifetime.
- Support: Always validate your grandchildren’s feelings. You must think about how you felt at their age.
- Pass on family traditions and history: Grandchildren love to learn about the history and traditions of their family. Tell them stories with a message and make the stories exciting or thought provoking.
- Stay young at heart: You shouldn’t act like an old fuddy-duddy with your grandchildren. You should be up to date on fashion, technology and their special interests.
- Values and wisdom: This is your ultimate responsibility as a GRANDmother. Leave your grandchildren with valuable knowledge. They will remember what you taught them.
- Trust: Prove you are trustworthy. The normal rule of thought, “If you tell one person, it is no longer a secret.” Prove your trustworthiness to your friends.
- Maintenance: Make an effort. Remember, friendships take a lot of tender loving care.
- Share: Share activities and intellectual interests with your close friends.
- Like-minded: Choose women who have similar qualities of character.
- Self-disclosure: Disclose who you really are. It is a vulnerable feeling, but will create a true bond.
Do something good today — tell those you care about that you love them.