By Jordan Elizabeth
School is out! And even though grown ladies don’t go to school, summer still makes one feel carefree and like you want to have fun. Maybe it’s being cooped up inside, or the fact that your seasonal allergies have finally died down - either way, it’s time to get out and make some memories. So why not treat you and your guy (or girlfriends! You’re an adult, there are no rules!) to a date night and live it up? If you’re stuck and can’t think of something fabulous to do, let me help you out:
- Dine Alfresco! There’s nothing better than eating outside on a warm, slightly breezy day. And it makes going out to eat feel just a little more special. So pick that place you’ve been meaning to go to, and make a night (or afternoon) of it. The added benefit to eating outside is not only great people watching, but summertime becomes a socially acceptable time to have a mid-day cocktail. And nothing says “summer” like a glass of rose`! (Just make sure to drink water, too, because ironically, cocktails and heat don’t mix as well as Gin and tonic do).
- Yachting, Anyone? Okay so as fabulous as you are, you may not be fabulous enough to have a yacht at your disposal. But hopefully, you know someone who has a little boat - or there’s a place nearby (if you’re lucky enough to live near an ocean, lake, river, or large puddle) that has boats to rent or dine on. As long as you don’t have a penchant for seasickness, being on the water, taking in the lights of the city, just screams romantic date night.
- Get Busy! Not like that (well, maybe after). Finding an activity to do pretty much guarantees a memorable date night. Think small, like karaoke (everyone loves singing Celine Dion!), mini-golf (no one is good at this, so no hurt feelings), a cooking class, or a wine tasting (wine stores usually offer them, and all you have to do is say the words “oak” and “fruity” a lot). It takes the pressure off you, and diverts attention to the task at hand. Good memories and fun stories are sure to follow!
- Or Stay Home! Some of the best nights can be right at home, if you make it just a little special. Maybe that means cooking on the grill, dressing up the table a little nicer, or fixing a special drink. It’s often when you’re most comfortable with your surroundings and your date that the best conversations come! And sometimes that’s all you really need in a date night - to relax, connect with your partner, and refocus.
Keep in mind, date night doesn’t always mean going big! It’s really more about taking the time, and being present where you are. One of the hardest things in relationships is finding that time to stop and enjoy life and your partner. But it’s always rewarding! So treat yourself!
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JORDAN ELIZABETH - Life
Jordan Elizabeth is a comedian, TV Writer/Producer, collector of hobbies, and master of putting off adulthood. She can be heard on the Podcast "3 Dudes and a Broad" and performs stand-up comedy with "Girls Gone Funny." She lives in Manhattan with her fiance and two dogs. Read more about her life at Jordie Elizabeth and follow her on Twitter at@JordiElizabeth.
By Susan "Honey" Good
I know my title sounds a bit dismal and maybe even unappreciative. Nothing could be farther from the truth. It is just hard for me to leave “home.”
I am so content living in my beautiful Chicago in my apartment in the sky with my husband, Sheldon Good, and my delicious pooch, Orchid. I am a homebody and yet, when I venture out, which I often do, I am a city woman who revels in the delight about everything in Chicago.
By Susan "Honey" Good
So many people think that their minds are responsible for decision making. But before you “makeup your mind,” are you aware of the importance of listening to your heart?
Your heart is your alter ego, your secondary or alternative personality, and, if you let her, she can also be your trusted friend. If you listen to your heart’s messages, your path through life will be less bumpy. It is a truism that the mysteries of the heart send our mind our true feelings. Your first goal is ‘to listen to the beat.’
Every child wants to have friends and be part of ‘a group.’
With our guiding principles we should play a role in educating our Grands on the principles of friendship, so they can choose the right friends and groups and avoid the fickle, fake, back stabbers and poor role models.
Teaching Grandchildren, through story telling, is my manner of imparting a message. I choose to tell my Olive tree story by using the tree as a symbol and guide of what characteristics to look for a group.
The Olive Tree Story
I remembered an incident in my life after reading my writer friend, Barbara Ballinger’s story, "What’s in a name" here. Her story sparked a personal memory dating back twenty-six years ago.
After attending a Friday night Sabbath service, in the oldest synagogue in Europe, my intoxicating and over the top romance with Sheldon Good almost came to an end. It was over a name.
From the moment I met Sheldon Good for the first time, I was hooked. As I write this story I envision his silhouette twenty-six years later. I see him getting out of his car in a grey suit, blue shirt, and beautiful tie. I was hooked before we spoke! He was hooked, too, seeing me walk out the revolving door of my parent’s condo building in a white silk shirt, black and white hounds tooth jacket and pleated black shirt and of course, darlings, red lipstick and high heeled shoes!
We’ve been facing a dilemma of late. How do we refer to the men we date when out in public and we want to introduce them?
US: Oh hi, Mrs. Wagner, this is my boyfriend, Bob. (At which point, she looks at us incredulously because he’s not a boy – in his 60s in Barbara’s case, or in his 70s, as in Margaret’s. And he’s certainly more than a friend.)
It was so easy when we were younger… but wasn’t everything? Long before we turned 50, he was a boyfriend and before that a date. Now that we are skipping down the path of senior citizenship or have arrived, the term sounds so teenager-ish, like trying to wear our skirts too short or our hair too long.
’ve always thought of myself as one one of those 'full speed ahead’ sort of people. But, of late, I’ve noticed that I’m holding back just a bit. When I meet new people and they reach out to me to stay in touch or plan another meeting I find myself internally re-coiling, just a bit. What’s that about? I certainly have more time than I used to have when I was working in the real world. What is making me cautious or stand-offish? Perhaps I’m just getting selfish with my time.
I’ve never been big on talking to strangers. I can fly across the country and never speak to the person next to me. But these new feelings of closing in are even more isolating than that. I’m guarding myself. From what, I’m unsure but it does feel like I’m constructing a wall.
By: Deanna Shoss
Running errands this morning I heard about the looming baguette shortage in France and it reminded me that sometimes it’s okay to grow up and turn into your mother.