Why Is This Happening?

By: Lorraine Iverson

I am in the midst of re-reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and it’s even better the second time. The first time I read it was probably ten years ago. Now, at this point in my life, I wouldn’t have expected to achieve that much new enlightenment since the last read. But I’ll be darned - I have!  As I dive into the very dense and deep writings of Mr. Tolle, I see my previously highlighted passages. And they are still worthy of the highlights but they read differently now. They are not the revelations they were originally. They are now my truth. The enlightenment of past years has become the reality I live in today.  That’s pretty exciting to me. I can see now that I am living at a deeper and more peaceful level. 

All of this being said, I’m still quite capable of creating havoc in my daily dealings.  All the fools on the freeway still haven’t learned how to drive. And, I can still get sucked into some juicy gossip as quick as a Beverly Hills Housewife.  But, in between, I’m a lot more peaceful than I used to be.

There is a paragraph from the book that resonates so strongly for me that I have found myself quoting it several times in the last few days. It may be the most important thing I took away from the book the last time I read it, and it may be this time as well.

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.”

I no longer need to ask myself... why is this happening? I just know that whatever is going on for me is exactly what I need to learn. Some how this gives me solace when the quicksand I’m entrenched in is rising past my chin.

I recently had one of those lessons show up from long ago. Forty years ago I was a hippy, living in the woods in Northern California. My dog and my friend’s dog went on an adventure together and killed a few sheep.  The sheep rancher took us to court and there was a $4000 judgement levied against us. It might as well have been $4,000,000. We didn’t have any money and we had no intention of paying the wealthy old sheep rancher. We knew he was trying to teach us a lesson. Got it. Life goes on. Never gave it another thought. Apparently the sheep rancher included his son on the judgement and the son has been renewing it every 10 years with interest. My friend went to re-finance her house and there’s a $45,000 lien against the property. Oh sugar!

We fought, we argued, we finally settled. Why was this happening? Because there was this place in my distant past, forgotten distant past, where I was out of integrity. Evidence of that was also becoming clear to me because my own finances were feeling strained - something I haven’t experienced for a long time. But as soon as the papers were signed and check delivered, I felt a weight lift and things began to flow again.

That was an expensive lesson but I guess it was necessary for ‘the evolution of my consciousness.’

I’m not saying that every little thing that happens in our lives is a big spiritual teaching moment. Someone running into your car or spilling soup on you is probably not a sign post on the road to higher consciousness. But if you continue to find yourself in similar situations all the time, there’s a good possibility that there’s something that needs to be learned. Sometimes it feels like there’s a conspiracy going on - forces outside yourself plotting against you. If it begins to feel that way the next step is to accept full responsibility. Even if you don’t know what it is. Our life lessons are created by us, not aliens or outside forces, not even the bank. It’s the evolution of our consciousness. Remember?

Sometimes our families are our greatest teachers. I’m one of those people that believes we pick our families before we’re born. So when you find yourself asking why you were born into such a crazy clan, consider the idea that you picked them to learn something in this life. It might make it a little easier to cope. Works for me.


Rain Iverson has traveled many paths and is always recreating herself. As a business woman, she co-founded and managed a technology public relations firm and one of the first computer conferencing software companies. She has served on non-profit boards, retired at 50 to become an artist and then 10 years later came out of retirement to become CFO of her son's company. Rain is the matriarch of a large, blended family with a great husband, children, grandchildren and lots of extended/blended family members.