Women Should Empower Each Other

By: Honey Good

I had an intimate conversation with Barbara Walters last Tuesday night in New York! Can you believe it? I am still pinching myself!

It came out of nowhere. I was shocked by the experience, happy as could be and very insightfully wanted to spread my Barbara Walter’s story; not to self elevate but rather to reveal a quality that the sisterhood of women should posses…the gift of sincerely complimenting one another.

Here is my Good Morning Story!

My husband, Sheldon Good and I were seated at a small banquet, at La Grenouille, a charming, French restaurant in Manhattan. Hugging close to our table was a round table of eight. I could not help but hear the mix of several accents bantering back and forth in lively conversation; French women, a gentleman from London and Americans. One of the Americans was the icon, Barbara Walters.

During the course of our dinner my husband turned to me and said in a nonchalant manner, “After we are finish dinner, I am going over to that table to speak to Barbara Walters.”

“You're doing what? Barbara Walters is at that table? Which woman? (I was not wearing my glasses.) You’re going to talk to her? Why?" My sentences ran together as I felt my forehead crinkle up in puzzlement.

“Because I know her! ” he replied laughing.

“How do you know her?”

“We doubled dated fifty years ago! She dated a friend of mine for over a year, maybe two. She will remember. “

“I don’t think it’s polite to interrupt their dinner.” was my immediate response.

“Well, I usually defer to you but I know it is fine. She will be happy to reminisce. By the way she keeps staring at you.”

“Oh?” I said. And then continued our conversation with… “When you go to her table, I am going to walk toward the door and wait for you because I just don’t feel comfortable accompanying you to the table.”

That did not stop my personality plus husband who loves to talk to everyone!

So, after dinner we parted. He went to Barbara. I went toward the exit. I walked about 15 feet, turned to see how Shelly was fairing and noticed Barbara Walters raise her hand signaling me to come over to the table. At first I did not move but she persisted in waving me towards her. I slowly walked to her side. She asked me to lean down and paid me compliments that I will remember all the days of my life.

She had a sparkle in her eye and was very pretty at 86. Her hair is very light; seemed to be naturally grey and it is longer than usual. She was dressed in all white. She was very feminine with a warm smile and soft voice. She was ‘the Barbara Walters’ complimenting me!

I really don’t remember much what I said. But I do remember everything she said. The conversation went something like this:

Barbara: “I want to tell you something.”

I leaned close to her and listened.

I then thanked her and said, “My name is Susan. Susan Good. I would like to pay you a compliment in return.”

And that is all I can remember of our conversation! But there was more. I was totally at a loss for words. Not because she is a celebrity but because she is a woman of such substance who had the ability to reach out to me, a stranger, with the nicest compliment that I have ever received from another woman.

I’d love to share my conversation with Barbara but I dare not. Because, darlings, you know how women can be!

As I lay in bed that evening with the lights out I realized the real importance of meeting Barbara Walters. It was to pass on to my three daughters (I include my daughter in-law) and granddaughters how significant and heartwarming it is to reach out to another girlfriend and even a stranger with a compliment.

So, the next morning I opened my laptop and quickly sent a short email on the importance of giving compliments:

Dear Girls,

I met Barbara Walter’s last night. I came away from our conversation with some important thoughts on why you should compliment other girls.

  • Take time to fill another’s cup. It is good for you. It is great for her.
  • Being kind to your friends is an asset; never a liability.
  • A compliment is an opportunity to make your girlfriend smile, feel special and be acknowledged.
  • Think about how you feel when a friend pays you a compliment. Wonderful.
  • Be a leader. It takes a strong girl to compliment another girl.

Tuck these thoughts into your minds. I love you all to the moon!

Complimentary messages to our girlfriends should rule more so at our age because we have more time on our hands to spend with other women. There are many women who have the ability to brighten up another woman’s day. I might add that I think it is worthwhile to seek them out because they are confident and positive, like Barbara Walters.

Last but not least, I must pay my husband a compliment. “Thank you for being who you are…a man who knows what other people want to hear.”

Do something GOOD today: Wave someone over…

Photography by Hallie Duesenberg

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