By: Susan “Honey” Good

Hope is such an important part of your emotional engine. It drives you to engage with life. It is the way you view your world. A hopeful woman can envision and cope. Having hope is positive and exciting. Hope makes you ‘want to bother.’

I am of the opinion, from my own experiences, that hope may be our most important emotion, outside of love. It casts away doubt, and keeps us resilient, relevant, and optimistic. Happiness does not make a hopeful woman. Hope makes her happy.

Hopelessness is one’s lack of seeing the possibilities. For some of us, it is momentary. For others, it is a constant. For myself, it is momentary. I am filled with hope.

I think it goes back to my youth in Kankakee by the Sea. My parents empowered me and I grew up feeling secure within my large family. My school days were not always easy; yet, I found the tools to learn to be hopeful.

Ask yourself why you feel the way you do regarding, hope.

Why are some of us hopeful and others of us not? Is it in our genes? Yes. Is it learned in childhood? Yes. Can a person become hopeful after age 50? The professionals say you can because everyone wants it. It all has to do with the degree.

Darlings, I am hopeful that they are right because I know how it feels. It is an emotional and physical feeling of euphoria, a feeling of intense excitement and happiness. Hope fuels your desire to continue anything you set out to do.

I had an interview with the CEO of the Sun Times Network. He was looking for an older woman; remember darlings, ‘older is the new black,’ to write a weekly story for STN that could be read in 70 cities across America.

After hiring me as a writer for STN, he said to me, “I want you to have an Instagram account and I want you to do a two-minute ad lib video that we will add to each of your stories. We will send our people over to film.”

I thought in my head, “Videos!  I can’t do videos. I have never done videos.” And then I answered, “How exciting, I would love to!”

Was I more hopeful than scared? Yes, yes and yes!

On my way home, in the taxi, I thought about my answer to the CEO.

He wanted videos. I wanted the opportunity to write for STN. Hope inspired me to excitedly answer, “Yes!” I would cope with the unknown.

For you darlings, who have long spells of feeling hopeless, I have a few suggestions to build hope.

First of all, things can and will go wrong in life! A hopeful person has the ability to feel hope because she can push back through her disappointment. She can turn lemons into lemonade.

Manage fear. When you feel trapped, a hopeful person is not near sighted. She sees multiple options to survive her situation.

Trust in people. People need people. A hopeful person has the ability to trust that most people are well meaning and reliable. Find the middle ground for trust. Your past experiences are your life lessons.

Have purpose. Our brains handle all emotions, including empowerment and purpose. A hopeful person tries to shape her possibilities with her ideals and think about her strengths.

Things really do work out so have faith. Having faith comes from within.  So say ‘yes’ to your opportunities and turn your self-doubt into hope. We all have disappointments. Don’t allow them to defeat you. Let the lesson learned… fuel you.

As a woman who thrives on hope and sees her glass as half full, I can say that hope, outside of love, is my greatest source of nourishment.

If you have children or Grands that lack the ‘hope gene,’ be their guardian angel and show them by your actions the light. And teach them, through your words.

Do something GOOD today. Find hope in your life, or help those around you find their own hope!