Everyone has at least one confident woman in her life. You know the type, right?  They leave a mark wherever they go. A bold and lasting impression. They have that je ne sais quoi. 

No matter their age or body type, they have a style that you want to emulate. If you ask me, confidence is a style. A way of holding yourself. Confidence can make anything look good. Confidence is sexy. 

Are you that woman? Do people flock to your conversation?

If your answer is no, worry not. You can become the best version of yourself. Even if you are shy or introverted, you can have confidence. First, consider the traits and habits that all confident women share. Next, examine what habits you share and which you might want to work on. 

7 HABITS OF CONFIDENT WOMEN

#1. A CONFIDENT WOMAN SEEKS TO IMPROVE HERSELF

In my mind, the best trait someone can have is to understand that no matter how old they are or how educated, there is always more to learn. A confident woman understands this and seeks to learn and improve herself. 

Easy ways to work toward self-improvement:

• Read inspiring books (both fiction and nonfiction)
• Listen to inspirational podcasts
• Read self-help books 
• Read  biographies, and accounts of historical events
• Apply the knowledge learned from books
• Surround yourself with women who inspire you

 

#2. A CONFIDENT WOMAN CAN ADMIT MISTAKES

The next hallmark of a confident woman is that she can admit mistakes. She knows what she knows and, more importantly, what she doesn’t. When she sees the error of her ways, she does not bury her head in the sand and pretend all is well. A confident woman will admit her mistake, without transferring blame, and make amends if possible. 

 

#3. A CONFIDENT WOMAN IS A GOOD LISTENER (AND IS OPEN-MINDED)

Firstly, a confident woman knows that she is not the only one with something to say. She listens with the intention of taking in what her friend is saying. She does not only think of forming her response. A confident woman responds thoughtfully and seeks to add to a conversation, not just turn attention back on herself. 

Secondly, a confident woman is open to changing her opinion. Confidence does not mean doubling down on a previously held notion. She can take in new information and apply it as needed — or not. This does not make her indecisive. On the contrary, it makes her purposeful. 

 

#4. A CONFIDENT WOMAN SETS BOUNDARIES

The next habit that confident women share is setting boundaries. She understands that her time is valuable and will not waver when someone tries to take advantage. This does not mean she is selfish or uncaring. She gives her time freely to the people and things that she cares about. However, she understands that her time is limited and she will not push herself for unworthy reasons. 

This woman understands that in protecting her time, she is able to give herself wholly and with full attention when she is in the moment.

 

#5. A CONFIDENT WOMAN WILL TRY NEW THINGS

Another habit of confident women? They try new things. Confident women will not only stick to things that they are already good at. She is open to possibilities outside of what she knows. When an opportunity presents itself, she takes chances. Make a habit of saying yes to things that encourage growth.

 

#6. A CONFIDENT WOMAN IS AUTHENTIC TO HERSELF

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”

– Coco Chanel

Although a woman with confidence is open-minded and is willing to see things from all sides, she always stays true to herself. She has strong convictions and will not waver. She will not change sides simply because of what is in fashion or in the moment. This woman will only change her mind if she sees a new view as an improvement of a thought she previously held. If she learns a new better way. However, she will never flow with the current just because others are. 

A woman who is authentic to herself: 

• Looks for meaningful connection 
• Seeks to understand herself further through exploration and learning
• Leads by example
• Walks the walk
• Speaks well of others
• Compliments others authentically

 

#7. A CONFIDENT WOMAN PRACTICES SELF-CARE

When you are in the habit of practicing self-care, you understand that it makes you a better mother, daughter, friend, and wife. You cannot give from an empty vessel. If you do not care for yourself, it is difficult to be steadfast in your convictions. It will be harder to set boundaries, to have the energy to explore new things. Simply put, it will make all of the other habits on this list harder to maintain. 

Simple ways to practice self-care:

• Take a technology break
• Take a social media break (and/or set firm daily limits)
• Read books on self-care
• Get outside/ take a walk
• Dance to your favorite music
• Move your body (even if only for a few minutes)
• Have coffee with a friend

Above all, a confident woman understands that tearing others down does not build her up. She is in the habit of giving compliments authentically and freely. A confident woman is there for other women, understanding that women need women. 

 

What habit of a confident woman stands out to you the most? Please share in the comments!