If you know how to stay positive, you should know that you’re accentuating your inner beauty.

Today, darling, I want to write about something that has been on my mind a lot lately. You know I believe that age is only a number and that 50+ is its own exciting chapter, not a closing act. With those beliefs, on top of the things going on in my personal life, I’ve been thinking about how we, as women over 50, can not only remain visible, but how we can radiate that inner and outer beauty

I want to share my thoughts about how to truly shine at this stage of life.

It’s not about chasing fleeting youth. It’s about owning the wisdom, the grace, and the verve that comes with these well-lived years. It’s about understanding that beauty isn’t just a surface thing; it’s a combination of inner confidence and outward expression. That special spark that is the real you in you, gets more authentic with every new experience.

Expressing Your Authentic Beauty with a Positive Outlook

Now, I know, life has its shares of ups and downs and sometimes it feels like there are more downs than ups. We’ve all had our share of storms, and sometimes, it can be tempting to let those storms dim our sparkle. Believe me, this is something I’ve been struggling with for over a year, dealing with my ultimate concierge’s poor health, and the estrangement of my family, particularly with my adult child due to emotional abuse.

But darling, that’s precisely when we need to get to the heart of our inner beauty. That is the key to blooming through adversity. In handling family estrangement, it’s crucial to recognize and address unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as emotional cutoff and avoidance, and strive for healthier strategies that promote emotional interdependence.

Because what we feel inside, it radiates outward like sunshine after a rainstorm.

So what is inner beauty? It’s not some unattainable thing. It’s about knowing yourself, celebrating your strengths, and nurturing your passions.

Now is the time to take risks and find your passion.

What sets your soul on fire? What makes you leap out of bed in the morning, eager to embrace the day? Is it painting, writing, volunteering, or simply spending time with loved ones? If you struggle to think of one thing that fills you with joy, something that you can see devoting yourself to, I recommend journaling

Whatever it is, embrace it, cherish it, and let it fuel your spirit.

Finding Your Own Positive Thinking Mindset

Ah, that positive attitude! It’s not about ignoring life’s challenges but facing them with grace and resilience. It’s about seeing the silver linings, finding the joy in the everyday moments, and choosing gratitude over grumbling. Start each day with a grateful heart, darling, and watch how your world transforms. A positive outlook can help manage stress better and adopt healthier lifestyles, contributing to improved overall health.

Now, let’s not forget about our health. We’re not getting any younger, are we? But that doesn’t mean we can’t be vibrant and energetic. It’s about being proactive, not reactive. It’s about nourishing our bodies with good food, moving them with joy, and listening to their whispers. And yes, darling, that includes regular check-ups and taking care of our mental well-being too. Negative thinking can lead to a pessimistic outlook on life, while positive self-talk can foster a more optimistic mindset. Remember, a healthy body and mind are the foundation of true beauty.

Benefits of Positive Thinking

Managing Self-Talk

Self-talk is that endless stream of unspoken thoughts running through your head, and it has a profound impact on your mood and behavior. Negative thoughts can lead to a pessimistic outlook on life, while positive self-talk can foster a more optimistic mindset. The first step in managing self-talk is becoming aware of your thoughts and challenging the negative ones.

Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a close friend. Focus on the present moment and let go of worries about the past or future. Use positive affirmations to reframe negative thoughts and promote a more positive mindset. Mindfulness meditation can also help increase awareness of your thoughts and emotions, making it easier to manage them.

Surround yourself with positive people who support and encourage you. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you feel fulfilled. By managing your self-talk, you can improve your mental health and overall well-being, creating a more positive and fulfilling life.

The Power of Women’s Connection

But darling, we’re not meant to walk this path alone. The people we surround ourselves with, they shape our world, don’t they? It’s about building a community of women who lift us up, inspire us, and celebrate our triumphs. It’s about finding those kindred spirits who understand the unique joys and challenges of this stage of life.

Seek support from extended family, other family members, friends, or a therapist if needed. Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges to improve relationships and reduce stress. Estrangement from one or both parents can lead to significant emotional repercussions, affecting both parents and children.

Family relationships can be a source of great joy, but they can also be complex and challenging, especially when dealing with estrangement or conflict between two family members.

And that’s why I created my private group, Women Over 50: Celebrate Visibility. It’s a haven for women just like you, from all corners of the globe, to connect, share, and support each other. Because darling, we’re stronger together.

Navigating Family Relationships

Family relationships can be a source of great joy, but they can also be complex and challenging, especially when dealing with estrangement or conflict. Communication is key to resolving discord and improving relationships with family members. Practice active listening by paying attention to the other person’s perspective and responding thoughtfully.

Avoid blaming or criticizing others; instead, focus on finding solutions and compromises. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and prioritizing your own needs. Seek support from other family members, friends, or a therapist if needed. Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges to improve relationships and reduce stress.

Make time for activities and traditions that bring you joy and strengthen family bonds. Be patient and understanding, recognizing that relationships take time and effort to build and maintain. By navigating family relationships with empathy and understanding, you can improve your overall well-being and quality of life.

Prioritizing Physical Health

Physical health is the cornerstone of overall well-being and quality of life. Regular exercise can improve your mood, reduce stress, and increase energy levels. A healthy diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains supports physical health and well-being. Adequate sleep is essential for both physical and mental health, with most adults needing 7-9 hours per night.

Practice stress-reducing techniques like meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises. Stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water throughout the day. Limit alcohol consumption and avoid substance abuse, which can negatively impact your physical health. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you feel fulfilled, such as hobbies or spending time with loved ones.

Prioritize preventive care by scheduling regular check-ups and screenings with your healthcare provider. By prioritizing physical health, you can improve your overall well-being and quality of life, ensuring that you remain vibrant and energetic as you age.

Expressing Your Inner Radiance for Positive Outcomes

Now, let’s talk about confidence. It’s not about being loud or brash. It’s about knowing your worth, owning your story, and walking into a room with your head held high and a twinkle in your eye. It’s about embracing your unique style, whatever that may be, and letting it reflect your inner radiance.

And darling, never forget the power of a smile. Your smile is your most important accessory.

So, darling, I ask you, what’s your tried-and-true way to accentuate the positive in life? What’s your secret to owning your beauty and your life after 50, especially with adult children? I’d love to hear your thoughts, your stories, your wisdom. Let’s start a conversation.