I am sitting in my favorite spot in our home in Rancho Mirage with my dog, Orchid, by my side and my husband sitting nearby on the couch reading one of his shoot-em-up novels.
The rock fire pit, filled with all colors of rock crystals that were bought to acknowledge my spirituality, are ablaze in color. Soft music plays in the background and I am late with my story to my darling editor. When this happens, I am usually stressed because I don’t like to be late with my writings. But today, I am not stressed because she is aware I have a deadline on Monday and it’s for something BIG! This is what I want to share with you all but… first things first.
My draft, my deadline will be met and I am smiling as I think back five years ago to my previous Rancho Mirage lifestyle. I was playing golf and cards with girlfriends, I was very active at the club we belong to, running events and being part of the groups.
I often gave large and small beautiful dinner parties at our home, I was involved with a charity in the community, had a marvelous social life and many friends. I was grateful for the lifestyle but after some years I began to get restless. I wanted to explore new avenues. But what? I wanted to wake up excited and be curious about at least one thing a day. I felt stuck… like being on a cruise ship for six months in the middle of the Sea with no exit. Have you ever felt this way, dear readers?
The Courage To Start A New “Chapter”
I remember when my daughters and I would go to the market and bring home bags of groceries. The snow would be falling and it never failed that my feet would come up from under me and though I should have taken a big flop, I always caught myself and “landed on my feet.” My young daughters would laugh and say, “Mom, you are so lucky; you always land on your feet.” And, darlings, the fact is I have always landed on my feet.
That is not to say that I have not had a large share of traumatic experiences; I have had plenty but I have managed to pick myself up because of optimism and will and I have a history of landing on my feet. For this, I am beyond grateful.
Five years ago, as many of you know, I was told by a stranger, a writer, “If you keep a journal for three months, you will find your voice.” From that moment, I never missed day writing. I feel it was fate that brought this woman and me together at a time when I was searching for a purpose. Five years later, I can say, “I landed on my feet.” And, what a landing it has been!
It has been a wild ride these past five years; filled with excitement, bewilderment, crying out of frustration with technology, risks, lack of knowledge, tenacity, eagerness, but always, no matter what, hope, and in the back of my mind… OPTIMISM.
I changed my life after 50. No more golf, no more cards once a week, no more leading club activities, no more dinner parties at our home, no more marvelous social life and no more working in the community. But, I know I made the right choice even though I do miss the interaction with girlfriends. You know darling, you can’t have it all. You have to make choices.
My life is filled with passion and purpose and risk-taking and learning and wonderful happenings as my Internet business, HoneyGood.com, continues to grow and I continue to grow as a woman over 50. My “work” now is remaining vital and relevant well after 50 and, hopefully, inspiring other women over 50 to do the same.
The Biggest Surprise Of My Life
I am under contract with a major publishing company in New York, who contacted me, to write my first book. I landed a book deal! I am now a professional author!
How did I feel when I received the email and call from the Managing Editor at the publishing house?
Grateful and shocked!
What were my first words to my husband, my ultimate concierge?
“I cannot believe this is happening to me!”
What was my ultimate concierge’s response?
“You earned this. You have dedicated yourself to writing for five years. You write with openness and optimism and remind the women who read your stories that anything is possible.”
So, I am on to a new adventure, darlings. Please take the ride with me. I will share every happening with you. I need you, my friends from all over the world. I want to share this next “chapter” with you all. I am smiling.
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How thrilling and exciting- I have no doubt you will write a fabulous insightful book. I know exactly what you mean about ready for a change though I love my life in Palm Desert similar to yours! You did earn it – Good for you ????????????????????????
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement, Ruth!
Fabulous news Honey! You keep moving forward (my word for the year!) You are a treasure!
Big congratulations Susan!
Congratulations Honey! You have so much to share with the world. You are an inspiration to all!
Congratulations! Looking forward to it.
Congratulation! Can’t wait to read your book!!!
Honey, this is so well deserved. I read you for inspiration and comfort, which I badly need just now, having lost my oldest daughter 3 weeks ago, just before her 58th birthdayI I had just turned her on to Honeygood. Like you, she was a Susan.We called her our black-eyed Susan, and her dad called her SuzieBelle.
Please know what a difference you make in your readers lives- you are a never met, unseen but dear friend. Thank you for all you do.
Your Portland friend;
Penny Luckenbaugh
My heartfelt condolences to you. Be blessed with lifetime memories of your daughter.
Anne
Thank you Anne. Nothing in life prepares you to lose your child. I try to remind myself that I have much to be grateful for; good health, wonderful friends and an amazing partner.
People have been so kind- and it means so much.
Penny
I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words. I am very glad you have a strong a support system. That is a blessing. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations! Can’t wait to meet you on the book tour!
Congratulations Honey! Looking forward to reading your book!
Awesome! You so deserve it. Congratulations.
So happy for you. You deserve this, you are so talented.
Congratulations, Honey! The book will be fabulous!
Congratulations on your awesome accomplishment!
You have followed your dream with such passion and commitment!
Jill
Thank you, Jill. So special to hear from you. I am most appreciative. How are you? xoxo Susan
Woo Hoo! You are an inspiration and I’m thankful to have found your musings/writings.
Congratulations and I look forward to hearing about your continuing adventures with your book.
As always, bless you for sharing.
Susan
Congratulations. You are so deserving of this. Can’t wait to read the book!
Honey, what a wonderful new adventure! Congratulations to you! I so admire how you welcome new challenges and charge forward!
Oh Honey how wonderful, congratulations from the bottom of my heart. I’m so happy for you, yes you do deserve this.
Woohoo! You go girl:)
Honey, You are such a gift to mature women. Congrratulations! Hope to see you on your book tour
Congratulations Honey! I will look forward to seeing, buying & reading your new book!
Kudos to you!
Best,
SoCal Allison
How exciting! Well deserved and I hope your book tour brings you near Cincinnati!
Congratulations. A huge accomplishment. Now —- write on, write on…..
Wishing you all the best as you start on your next quest: published author.
Consider joining a professional writer’s group in both communities where you live. I found the Northern Virginia Writer’s Guild through MeetUp.. I attended my first meeting today. 15 people attended. Members post their current project (or chapter) online. Attendees critique and comment on each item posted by offering helpful and encouraging suggestions, then hand their written comments to the author. The authors departed with heavily marked up comments from 6 other writers! Then a guest speaker lectured for one hour on Voice and Point of View.
Try to get your book in Costco! And consider appearances at Book Fairs. George Mason University in Fairfax, VA has an huge, multi-day fair, Fall for the Book: This is their 20th year:
https://fallforthebook.org/submissions/ May 1, 2018 is author deadline this year. Your book would probably be ready for such events in 2019. Great way to network with other authors also. Attend some as a guest/observer this year.
So happy; you go girl!!
And, you go girl. Thank you for the info. I will listen to your advice. Warmly, Honey
Honey, my heartfelt Congratulations to you!! You absolutely deserve this! I cant wait to read your book!
Nancy
Thank you Nancy, for your heartfelt congrats. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations to someone most deserving. I accidentally found you while searching for a baby gift…and in truth it was no accident because I had been looking for someone who could validate me in my thoughts and desires, letting me know that it was OK to experience adventures and be a vibrant woman over 50. I no longer think that I need to slip into the background until I become properly invisible.
God has blessed you as you have blessed others.
And God bless you. I am so glad you are experiencing adventure. Keep it up. Our age is just a number. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations on the book deal
Hope you will have a signing in your old hometown…
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I will. And thank you for your nice words. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations! I look forward to reading your book.
Thank you so much, Elizabeth. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations from the UK Honey, very well deserved!
I love your country. I love London. And I thank you for your congratulations from across the pond! Warmly, Honey
Honey, This is a delightful surprise! Of course we will journey with you on your new adventure.
Big love,
Anne
Thank you, Anne. I appreciate that you will journey with me. Warmly, Honey
Hello Susan I am soo happy for you and for us your readers …. we have a famous friend!! I was talking to a colleague about you .. and what ant interesting character you are .. you are like an Spanish castanet.. such beautiful in tune person you are and all your stories always leave me with a teaching behind .. I am stacked though… in limbo .. I know I am doing something good in looking after my husband that depends on me.. … i have promise to myself to do so… …. he is getting old and vulnerable ….. I am making an effort to make new friends as many of the old ones have disappeared … for wherever reason …. expanding my horizons that will be my company till the day I die as my son will not be with me … .. all the young girls I work with look at me as an inspiration and a role model… I encourage to them to educated themselves .. many are a bit lost ….maybe this is my mission and incredible enough most of my young friends come from very trouble background … maybe is my mission in life …. although it is far away of I was trained at University for as you know I have a degree in Political Science and Management and Studies in History and Geography … all the Psychology I have learned I use it in advising my hew friends and Practically be the unpaid Social Worker of my Work Place as I know the Law back to front in Australia …. I would like to get involved with the old with no voice as there is a lot of unfairness in this part of Society.. but my plate is a bit full so perhaps this has to wait …I will be the First one to buy your Book what will be the title Susan???? keep me posted ..
I will keep you posted my political science major turned psychologist. Good for you helping the younger generation.I applaud you. And, thank you for your kind words. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations! I so enjoy your writing and your musings, always so positive. I look forward to sharing your exciting new venture!
Congratulations!!!! This is such a wonderful time for ALL of us women over 50 to spread our wings & discover new adventures, new passions & rediscover ourselves. I know that I am on that journey & look forward to your daily postings that cover so many “opportunities” we face.
Wishing you all the best!!
Cindy Harris
You are over the top right on. I am glad you are on your journey! Enjoy your ride and thank you for your congrats! Warmly, Honey
Congratulations honey, looking forward to reading your first book.
Xo
Thank you, Toni. Warmly, Honey
Similar story. — took on a challenge in2017. Three years after loosing the love of my life of 48 years —
In the same lifestyle as you were. Golf. Cards. Dinner parties etc — but in Florida on the beautiful Atlantic Ocean
I decided to do something I always wanted to do — flip homes
Purchased my first two homes. Renovated them (huge education on the first home) Sold both of them within a month
On my third currently —
Love every minute of it. So very challenging. The one thing I love to hear from people in my life (lawyer, broker, kids, and friends) Steve (my husband/best friend) would be so very proud of you!
Dear Honey, I am so happy for you! I can’t wait to read your book when it’s published. Everyday I look forward to your post. Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing so much with us.
Warmly,
Christina
Christina, your happiness for me makes me so happy. Thank you so much. Warmly, Honey
Always enjoy reading your blog, congratulations, well deserved! You are an inspiration to all women over the age of 60 and 70. Life can still be good and we should always count our blessings!
Well, how wonderful! This is a perfect, natural progression for you, Susan. I know your book will be fascinating, just like your blog.
You inspire me to keep moving forward and not just retire and be tired!
Congratulations!
Linda in Wisconsin
Thank you, Linda. I am glad you are moving forward and staying visible and relevant. Warmly, Honey
Wonderful news, Honey! You have it all together, good luck and God bless!
God bless you, too. Marion and thank you so much for your nice words. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations! I will look forward to your book . I know I will love it!
Congratulations Honey on your next adventure. I will cheer you on from behind my computer screen, and send you words of encouragement…..so happy for you. ????❤️
How nice of you Bonnie! Thank you so much. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations! And you go girl! We will be with you all the way to the kindle download!!????????
I love your words, Geri. Thank you! Warmly, Honey
Dearest Honey!!!
I am so proud of you!!! You so deserve this honor! I have been so happy to have joined your insightful website. You give me so much joy, inside information and personal knowledge. You have made a great difference in my life.. I respect how you share your valuable personal stories, and pass on great tips on dress, and personal style. You teach us how to thrive and become more visible.
I have found it difficult facing the challenges of aging but I no longer feel alone with you and our wonderful beehive. Congratulations and thanks for trailblazing a path for all of us. Blessed to be enlightened by you! Sincerely, Jane Doyle
Honey – Congratulations – I look forward to hearing about your book.
CONGRATULATIONS SUSAN! I know your book will be a success just like HONEY GOOD.
I am proud to be an old friend from Kankakee. Keep up the good writing’s and I look forward to
reading your book with much anticipation. May you have God,s blessing’s on your new adventure.
Always,
Janice
Dear Janice, I think of you often and wonder how you are? So, I was truly thrilled to see you on Honey Good because that means you are fine and keeping up with me. We are joined from our days in Kankakee by the Sea 🙂 and Honey Good. I am glad. Thank you for your sweet words. May God bless you and your family. Warmly, Honey
I think of you often, wondering how you are. I am glad to hear from you. It has been a long time. Thank you for your warm words and may God bless you and your family. Warmly, Honey
I am not sure you received my response, so here it is once again. I think of you wondering how you are. I am so glad to finally hear from you. It has been a long time. Thank you for your warm words and may God bless you and your family. ????????????
Congrats Honey! Oh how very exciting. I have no doubt as to how insightful, warm, insightful your writings will be for your new book because I know how your musings are… God bless you.
And God Bless you for your kindness. Warmly, Honey
Congratulations to you Honey! It seems very fitting that you would be approached to write a book. I look forward to hearing about this next step and of course reading it!
Thank you so much, Mary Ellen. I am anxious to tell you. Stay tuned. Warmly, Honey
HONEY, good luck on the next chapter in your life and congratulations, looking forward to our book!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
Thank you, Mildred. Thank you so very much. Warmly, Honey
Honey,
You believed in yourself, and looked what happened. I believed in you the first time I read your column. Your wisdom has been a guiding light to me since. I’m thrilled to know you will be publishing a book. Congratulations! Someone above mentioned Costco as a source to sell. I agree.
Congratulations and all good wishes!
Thank you so much!!! Warmly, Honey
Thank you, Dot. Warmly, Honey
This news is fabulous! I have often wondered why you weren’t writing a book. It will be such a blessing to all who read it.
I am smiling! Thank you, Karen!
It is going to be a big surprise. Thank you for your kind words. Warmly, Honey
I can’t wait to read your book. I am thrilled for you.
Hi Judy,
Thank you so very kindly!
Warmly,
Honey
Thank you so much. I will keep you posted. Warmly, Honey
Thank you, Judy. Thank you for being happy for me. Warmly, Honey
Thank you, Judy! Warmly, Honey
What wonderful news Honey!! I am a very loyal reader of Honey Good. I admire your joy and positive attitude. Age should never rob us of either. The book deal is a great tribute to your writing skills I look forward to the finished product.
Your big smile and kindness were present in Sue Lang at KHS. I am happy to say I knew you when…
May God grant you big success in your new vewnture.
Lela Freigo Gahwiler KHS 1960
Thank you so very much, Lela!