Jealous Friends? Signs and Steps to Fix It.

Jealous Friends? Signs and Steps to Fix It.

By Susan "Honey" Good

Jealous friends can make your life difficult. We would all be happier not having to confront this type of experience. 

Jealousy is the Green Monster. You know the saying, “Green with envy.”

We all have had a few ‘silent’ incidents when we mention a happy experience, have a gorgeous new material possession or one of our grands has had an over the top award. Where is the smile of happiness on our friend’s face? Why over lunch with friends is there no response or conversation when you have joy? At our fabulous stage of life, we should associate with friends who can feel joy and happiness for us. 

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The Best Places To Retire In The World

The Best Places To Retire In The World

By Nicole Noel, Guest Contributor

A dream-come-true for many retirees is to spend their retirement days surrounded by beautiful nature, in warm, exotic places, and far away from the hustle and bustle of the cities. Among the leading reasons for moving away is the cost of living, safety, health perks and of course, the alluring climate.

Based on the past years’ trends, here are the most appealing destinations for you to retire in style and spend your non-working days carefree and in the company of marvelous wildlife and serene surroundings.

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Gut Health Equals Good Health After 50

Gut Health Equals Good Health After 50

By Susan "Honey" Good

Did you know that 80% of the immune system is in the gut?

Research has proven that poor digestive health can lead to a host of issues from inflammation, fatigue and low metabolism to poor immunity. In fact, Today, scientists are learning that the gut-brain link is stronger than originally thought, and that poor digestive balance can even lead to depression and anxiety. When we say we feel something in our “gut,” we may quite literally do just that! 

After 50, many experts agree that daily use pf a probiotic is essential to maintaining health. Do you take one? 

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A Relationship With Our Minds Over 50

A Relationship With Our Minds Over 50

By Susan "Honey" Good

My mind is constantly whirling and twirling with a million thoughts. I dream of going off to an island with my ultimate concierge, my pooch Orchid and my laptop, so you and I can stay in touch. 

I used to walk out my back door when I lived in Honolulu and pick papayas off my tree to serve my late husband and children at breakfast. Then I would take a four mile walk with a man named Ben, older than my father and in better shape than I was. He was a lawyer and professor and on our daily walk, I got an education. When I would come home, the girls were off at school and I’d feel the trade winds flowing through the rooms as I ran upstairs with my pooch Mahlo behind and jump into the shower to start my day. 

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Can We Talk?

Can We Talk?

By Susan "Honey" Good

It would be nice if we could all gather in my living room, or yours, and "kibbitz" over coffee! Until that day comes, let's do it virtually, shall we?

Here's what's on my mind this week…

The other day, I wrote about kindness and the need for more of it! Many of you chimed in! Most of you were in full agreement, which made me think... what if we all tried every week to fill the world with a little more kindness?

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Sisters All Over The World

Sisters All Over The World

By Susan "Honey" Good

Every night, in the middle of the night, I quietly reach for and open my laptop, sit up in our bed to answer all of your warm words and questions. I click into my comment section on my website and then go to Facebook and reply to all of you. Here I am a woman, much over 50, who is excited in the wee small hours of the morning to interact with you. 

Authenticity, sharing, and gratitude are three gifts I hope to leave my children, grands and you. With these ingredients in your mix of emotions, you can wake up each day, face your challenges and live a meaningful life. 

I cannot explain how touched I am hearing from you…you are women from all over the world. Many of you I now recognize by name or picture. Often I click on your picture to see where your interests lie. A travel photo, a sunset, grands, your family, your garden, flowers, art and my list goes on.

Four years ago I needed a new purpose and Honey Good was born. Lacking experience as a professional writer and no knowledge of the Internet my strong desire and tenacity overruled common sense. Why?

 I knew I would reap a great deal of satisfaction and gratification. 

Of course, nothing is simple. I was faced and still am faced with screaming frustrations.

My frustration was caused by lack of knowledge of the Internet. I knew nothing of the technical side. I had never heard of a keyword, SEO, Google analytics, links, drop box, Social Media and that is just for starters.

Fortunately, I picked a great team, Carolyn, Johanna and Susan who are probably more frustrated than I am because they have to tutor and mother me along. And they do a great job. I really try to be absorbed but it is difficult as a woman over 50 to grasp. After four years plus, I can talk the talk more or less but I cannot walk the walk!  I know the girls' hearts race as they receive 20 emails in one day, sometimes asking the same question twice, and have to bite their tongues in frustration over my lack of Internet skills but I know they love me.  I too love them and we  truly love HoneyGood.com and therefore, we are a ‘ sisterhood.’

We are different ages, have different opinions due partially to our generation gap but we have one strong thread in common. We share. We care. 

I think the differences that separate Honey Good from other women’s sites over 50 is we have become a sisterhood. We interact. Though, we are all different ages, come from all walks of life, some of us married, some widowed, some scholars, some world travelers, some career women, some shy, some outgoing, plus, coupled with the fact that we live in different states across America and countries around the world is nothing short of amazing. 

How has this happened?  I am their voice. I reach you, dear readers of mine because I am authentic. I share my sorrows and over the top joys, my 1 million tips, my family, my ultimate concierge and pooch Orchid, my relationships, my widowhood and illnesses, my girlfriend sagas and world travels. You can relate to me and I to you and that is what makes Honey Good special and different from other sites of women over 50.   We are a sisterhood of women over 50 who…share and who care 

I want to take this time to thank you for giving my life more meaning, more meaningful than I ever expected. I am very grateful that I have all of you in my life. 

d that is what makes Honey Good special and different from other sites of women over 50.   We are a sisterhood of women over 50 who…share and who care 

I want to take this time to thank you for giving my life more meaning, more meaningful than I ever expected. I am very grateful that I have all of you in my life. 

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A Powerful Reminder Of How Far We've Come

Kathrine Switzer in 1967 VIA NBC

Kathrine Switzer in 1967 VIA NBC

By Susan "Honey" Good

The other day, I came across a story that I'd probably once read, and yet, I'd forgotten.  

It was the story of Kathrine Switzer, the first woman to run in the Boston Marathon. The year was 1967. 

Switzer was 20 years of age at the time. She registered for the marathon as K.V. Switzer, but two miles into the race officials caught wind of a female running in "their" race.

That's when Jock Semple, a race official, jumped off the press bus and ran after her, according to NBC News

“He grabbed me ... threw me back and he said, ‘Get the hell out of my race and give me those numbers,’” Switzer recalled. “And he tried to pull my bib numbers off.”

Those of you who know the story may recall that Switzer's boyfriend at the time intervened, pushing Semple away. And Switzer was able to complete the race.

The struggle was captured in an iconic photograph that galvanized the women’s movement, pictured above.

Kathrine Switzer in 2017 via ABC

Kathrine Switzer in 2017 via ABC

Fifty years later in 2017 at 70 years of age, Switzer finished the race again, donning the same number: 261.

I love the story. Not for the struggle, but for the victory, and I think, most of all because it illustrates the perseverance of the human spirit.  

This story illustrates how far we've come, in really a very short time, but it also shines a light on the fact that we have so much further to go.  

For those of us with daughters or granddaughters --  and even great-granddaughters -- this is a wonderful story to share with our children and Grands.

I also think the story is a poignant reminder that society is not always correct in what it deems to be right and what it deems to be wrong. In 1967, it was "wrong"  for this young woman to want to run a marathon.  Thanks in part to her perseverance of spirit, women today have much more freedom to "run" in the direction of their dreams.

For my Grands, my daughters and myself, I am grateful. 

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Story source: http://www.nbcnews.com/feature/inspiring-america/first-woman-officially-run-boston-marathon-makes-triumphant-return-n747616

Are You Fluent in Kindness Over 50?

By Susan "Honey" Good

I am truly beginning to wonder about man’s inhumanity to his fellow man. Of course I, like you, have been exposed to human frailties. Everyone has them, but of late I am thoroughly disenchanted with the actions of our press, our government, many who are over 50, our so-called Hollywood stars, our college students, marchers carrying hateful posters, shootings of innocent people in my city and across the USA… where is the America I love? 

We are a nation that has forgotten how to be kind to our fellow man. Our governing fathers, mostly over 50, have forgotten how to solve problems through civil discourse. At this time, we are no longer a beacon of light for the world and we should feel shame. Our governing men and women and many of our citizens have forgotten that you get further with sugar than vinegar and that kindness counts. 

Are you fluent in kindness? If you are, you know it is a marvelous feeling. If you are borderline, here are a few of my thoughts for a woman over 50.

1. Make yourself feel good and make another person feel good. When you do a good deed for your family, friends or strangers, you automatically feel good and so does the other person. Be kind.

2. Be a voice for someone who needs you. I love to help and it’s a win-win for me and the other person or persons. My pooch is ill and I am her advocate 24/7. I am rewarded by her wagging tail, her kisses and her big black eyes looking up at me with love as if she is saying, “thank you.” Be kind.  

3. Be a role model. Our grands are watching us. They are picking up cues of how to treat others. Be kind.

4. Cease being judgmental. People will show a side of themselves we do not appreciate. When this happens, we have two choices — we can take the high road, realize their frailties and continue to be kind because they are our family. Or if they are friends or others and you cannot put up with their actions, I suggest you delete them from your life. Be kind.

5. Do we need a reason to be kind?  Personally, I do not think so. Being kind is an upper. When I smile at a stranger as I walk down the street I immediately feel good. I truly love being kind because it is uplifting for me and all those that I encounter. Be kind.

6. Lastly, be kind to yourself. Take time to smell the roses. Take time to enjoy the silence of the day. Take time for romance with your partner. Take time to show love. Take time for a manicure, pedicure, haircut or new hairstyle. Be kind. 

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Wearing White After 50

Wearing White After 50

By Susan "Honey" Good

Summer is (almost) officially here and white is certainly the "official" color of the summer season.

Can you wear white after 50? You can! Should you? Without a doubt, just as surely as you shouldn't let another person on this planet tell you what to wear... at any age ;-) 

Today, I am sharing some of my favorite new white pieces for summer in a variety of price points. Happy shopping, my fashionable friends! 

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Sticks And Stones Can Break Your Bones But Rocks Can Really Hurt You

Sticks And Stones Can Break Your Bones But Rocks Can Really Hurt You

Curious, I asked her what she meant. Did she have a new rock garden in her back yard? Has she been collecting some of the local semi-precious stones around Guatemala?

“No, nothing like that… Ever since Mom died my brother, his wife and I haven’t been getting along. They are sure that Mom squirreled away a fortune and they are spending theirs trying to find it. I’ve told them that there IS no fortune, but they are convinced and they think I am lying to cover up.

“So… these are the stones I carry around in my basket right now..."

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Women Over 50 Need a Sisterhood

By Susan "Honey" Good

Two years ago, a man in his 40’s in advertising asked me to invite a group of women over 50 to my home. He was curious what made them tick. I had 72 hours to accomplish this feat to be held at my home in California. I was still in Chicago, flying out the following day. He was still in Colorado.

I had never formed a focus group. I had no idea how women would react. Would they be open to expressing their feelings or would they clam up? Would they accept my invitation or refuse? Who should I ask? I am not a groupie. I am a floater, therefore, I knew a wide range of women I felt comfortable phoning. 

I sat down with pen and paper, deciding to invite eight women from different groups.

I chose women I admired for different reasons.

I chose women who would be straight forward and honest.

I chose women who had strong opinions about a woman’s life after 50 and also respected the opinions of others.

I chose women who were good communicators

I chose women who had a commonality.

To sum up my group… It was made up of women over 50 and from different cliques who, though all had strong opinions, would not over power the other.

To sum up the meeting… I am happy to say the group left my home invigorated. They spoke openly and acted like sisters. 

For the next few weeks, I thought about this group meeting. I felt the women had a compelling desire to form relationships with their peers to discuss this passage of their lives. And though my plate was full and overflowing, I decided to form a group.

I invited twelve women because I assumed ten or less would come due to travel, etc. And I decided that we would meet on the first Monday of each month at my home from 10am to noon and I would serve coffee, tea and muffins. 

I wrote up a list, decided on my ‘elevator pitch’ and I swear… not one woman turned me down.

THE ELEVATOR PITCH

My elevator pitch was from the heart.

I said, “Women need women to discuss this passage of life with its many hills and valleys. We all have a need to share our feelings, learn from one another and realize we are not alone. Please join me at my home monthly and become part of the conversation. I value you, your opinions and your manner of interacting with others. Please join the sisterhood.”

We formed our group two years ago. We will be starting up again in December when we return to our second home away from home and year three promises to be better than ever. 

We made one promise to one another — nothing we discussed would leave the four walls of my home.

I am going to start a Honey’s Sisterhood on honeygood.com in the near future because I know we need one another. I know this because in the wee hours of the morning when all are asleep in our home, I open up my laptop and answer all of you who message me through email, Facebook and my site. I am already attached to some of you. I know your names, your faces and who you are (a little) by the large photo you have chosen for your page. Many of you love gardens, your grands, the sea, travel, your pooches, etc. I know and I get such pleasure out of answering.

It is called relationships, darlings! And we all crave them. I am smiling.

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How To Beat Loneliness After 50

How To Beat Loneliness After 50

By Susan "Honey" Good

There are so many lonely people in the world. I am here to tell those of you who are in lonely marriages, living alone, divorced or widowed… there are several ways of combating loneliness after the age of 50. Ultimately, the solution lies within you.

I have found that the way to combat the feeling of loneliness is through connections. And, I do not necessarily mean with people. Of course, nothing is lovelier than the love between a man and a woman, a child and a parent and adult friends. Unfortunately, for some, these relationships are burdened with problems.

This morning, as I do every morning at 6 am, I am popping four pills down the throat of my darling dog, Orchid. After each pill slides down, I give her nose a kiss and tell her how much I love her. I then hug her to me and tell her that the pills will make her well. I feel overwhelmed with love as she stares up at me with her big black eyes, as if to say, “I understand.” We are companions. I am engulfed in joy. I am anything but lonely.

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Simple Spring Style After 50

Simple Spring Style After 50

By Susan "Honey" Good

 “One should either be a work of art, or wear a work of art.” ― Oscar Wilde

How would you define your personal style, dear readers? Is style something that matters to you at this point in your life?

I've been considering these two questions and trying to define what the answers are for me. How would I define my personal style? I believe I would say that I like to combine pieces that are timeless and sophisticated in ways that are new and unexpected.

My "outer" style reflects the inner me. I like to think of it as elegant and confident with a generous serving of joy and joie de vivre!

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How To Live A Lifestyle Of Contentment

How To Live A Lifestyle Of Contentment

Yesterday, my ultimate concierge, who is a city boy at heart, turned to me and said,

“I could live on a beautiful, secluded Island with you, Orchid and my library of books and be content.”

I felt a wave of physical and emotional contentment sweep over me as I listened. I replied,

“I would take my laptop and we would live in ‘Hawaii by the Sea’.”

We looked at each other and smiled as he returned to reading his book and I opened my laptop, my mind focused on the most important word, CONTENTMENT.

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