By: Honey Good
Have you see the Viagra commercial with the young woman reminding older men that they must do something about erectile dysfunction? Some see this commercial and note the obvious age discrepancy between the woman "selling" Viagra and the men who will buy it. I see a discrepancy between older men being encouraged to embrace their virility and women over 50 who are not so publicly encouraged to get randy.
Then, I take a look at my Facebook community where over 100,000 women over 50 like YOU and me gather to like, comment and share what matters most to us from necessities -- think recipes and new beauty products -- to political news, relationship advice and survival stories (such as my cancer survival story here). But I also see that nearly 3,000 of you liked and commented on a recent post about Richard Gere. And the comments? There were hundreds of them such as, "Still as handsome as ever," via Cathy Baca or "Hubba hubba," per Lynn Greeson.
The takeaway is this: We are sexy, virile, passionate women well after 50. Men are allowed, even encouraged, to flaunt their sexuality well into their Golden Years but for we women, flaunting our sex appeal after 50 can be treacherous. Should we? Why, of course, darlings! Here's how...
The Do's and Don'ts of Flaunting Your Sex Appeal After 50
Reread the above. Flaunting your sex appeal begins with recognizing that you have it. You may have changed in many ways from the woman you were 20, 30 or 40 years ago but you are still beautiful, attractive and vivacious. The good news is, most of you already know that. The results of a recent poll, conducted in association with YouGov and shared on DailyMail, revealed that most women feel more sexually confident in their 50s than in previous decades. And 94 percent of the women polled say they feel younger than they are.
Confidence is key
You're sexy and you know it. Confidence is the key to sex appeal at any age and so it follows that, at 50+, when we finally realize how much we have to offer (beyond just looks) we feel empowered. And that, my darlings, is s.e.x.y.
Erica Jagger, the 52 year old blogger behind the blog, "A Sexy Woman of A Certain Age", puts it succinctly via HuffPost 50. "And yet I don't feel invisible. I feel like I can compete with younger women for male attention and am surprised when I walk into a room and a man doesn't look at me. I never wonder what's wrong with me; I wonder, what the hell's wrong with him?"
Do recognize how amazing and appealing you are! And those 30 year olds in magazines and Viagra ads? As the saying goes, "Appreciate someone else's beauty without questioning your own."
Sexy isn't about skin
I'm not advocating dressing provocatively. I'm not suggesting your shorts should be as miniscule as your Granddaughter's or your blouse as low cut as you may have once worn, if you are pleased with your figure, wear clothes that complement it. And if you're not pleased with your figure, excercise more and eat well. Make a commitment to feel good about your body. It doesn't have to fit any mold or type but it's your body... love it!
Do wear what you love and love how you look! Don't neglect yourself; find the time to invest in your well-being, both physically and mentally.
Dress for attitude, not age
"Dressing your age" is a concept I despise. Dress for attitude, darlings! I love adding yellow sneakers to my purple jumpsuit for a pop of color, It may not be for everyone and that's O.K., because I dress for me. There never has been and never will be anything sexier than a woman who knows exactly who she is. A woman who knows what she brings to the table is not afraid to eat alone... but seldom does!
Do dress exactly as you wish! Don't be limited by "age-appropriate" apparel. Let only your own attitude be your guide.
I've heard it said that after a certain age women become invisible. I've never felt that to be true, darlings, but if you feel invisible, I invite you to join me in challenging that attitude. I invite you to change it, in fact. Be noticeable. Make an entrance. Embrace your sexuality. Do flaunt your sex appeal. Don't wait another minute!