Remaining a curious woman after 50 is one of the ways I find purpose. I am always on the lookout!
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I feel a rush of ‘joie de vivre’ when I am a curious woman. Just hearing the word puts me on a high. In today’s Sunday Story I want to share with you the benefits of being a curious woman after 50.
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WHAT IS A CURIOUS WOMAN?
In my mind a curious woman is eager to know and eager to learn. She is intrigued and inquisitive, and she is aware that to be interesting, she must be interested! She is never bored. Curiosity fills her mind and her spirit.
Honestly, I believe women over 50 and beyond enter the most creative chapter of their lives—inspiration is at its peak if she does not let life’s hills and valleys and aging diminish her. (It is when I started a business!)
I will be frank: when life throws us its ‘woes’—and it will—it is easy to lose one’s sense of self-importance. I speak from painful experience. As you know my ultimate concierge is not well. My life changed on a dime. It went from ‘whip cream to shit.’ Everything changed in my life and I mean everything. An ill husband. Estrangement from my family. All the normal goodies of my life vanished.
HOW CURIOSITY SAVES ME
It has been a few years and through my experience of living a life often filled with the feelings of despair I have found my footing — I know it is vital to remain curious and thankfully I am a very curious woman.
Curiosity is the ultimate in self-care because it reignites positive thinking. It fires up your strong desire to continue to open the windows of the mind and breathe in fresh air. It brings hope and excitement.
Curiosity prevents every woman from suffocating. It is so refreshing to breathe in fresh air with a new interest or old interest that you have placed on the back burner. A curious mind gives you back some of your vibrancy even when you feel you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.
A woman in despair who is having trouble jump-starting her mental engine must force herself to have the insight and fortitude to rearrange her DNA — her destiny and aspirations. My suggestion: Find a project that gives you an abundance of joy and a feeling of self-worth. I assure you that well-sourced projects will enhance an attitude adjustment.
Thinking back on my larger-than-life hiccups going back into my 30s until now — the loss of financial well-being in my first marriage, moving to Honolulu, widowhood, cancer, estrangement from my family, and my ultimate concierge’s illness — I used my mind to survive. I was and am curiously curious for solutions.
HOPE PROPELS A CURIOUS WOMAN
I believe in magic because I am a curious woman after 50!
I never thought of myself as a strong woman because I am very feminine and feel a woman’s femininity is her greatest asset. But, truth be told, I am strong — not in the sense of the business woman — but because I have a genuine feeling of hope in everything I undertake. The end of all my thoughts ends with a feeling of hope. Hope propels a woman. Curiosity is also hopefulness.
You may feel very vulnerable at this time in your life, but you are nevertheless strong. Most women are. Practice becoming curious, in endeavors that bring you joyful pleasure and you will survive and thrive. As I mentioned, curiosity is self-care.
Bring back that woman of substance attitude. Allow yourself to lean into beckoning back your curiosity. Curiosity will give you the feelings of relevancy and visibility.
Don’t allow yourself to be a passive woman over 50 and beyond. Instead, be curious! Isn’t that a grand idea?
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THE BENEFITS OF BEING A CURIOUS WOMAN
Everyone who has a problem or is lacking purpose and positivity after 50 and beyond should add a little ‘awe’ into their life. Being curious is awesome. It gives us joy, excitement, knowledge, anticipation and even the feeling of serenity.
Can you sit back for a moment and consider something that piqued your curiosity recently? Can you remember your emotions and feeling in awe?
It is pure wonderment.
For instance, you can’t put down a great book late at night because it has you curious, or you are going to meet your newborn grandchild and you are tantalized with curiosity. Or you find a new brand of tea, and, because you are curious, you don’t pass on it — you buy it. You see, darlings, even those of you who do not think you have a curious side are still curious at times.
CURIOSITY IS THE WAY TO GET UNSTUCK
For those of you, and I know plenty of women, who have but a few spurts of curiosity, I think fear and a negative life jolt prevents you from being curious explorers. I have friends that are stuck in their same old routines because they fear taking a risk. New challenges would never enter their minds; they are afraid of uncertainty. They don’t feel the opportunity to grow through learning and discovery. My advice: spread your wings until your last breath.
A friend of mine was the oldest woman to climb up the steep trails to visit the silverback gorillas in Rwanda. She could have been carried up in a hammock, as many older people are, but not this woman. And, my darlings, nothing stopped her. Not fear, not arthritis, not her husband. Instead, she lived out her dream because she was curious!
I am fortunate to have a role model, a mother, who left her mark on me. Nothing escaped her curiosity. I observed her learning this and trying that and going here and there and laughing hard through life. She questioned everything. She always propelled herself forward, saying, “I am curious. Let’s see what happens.” My mother was a beyond curious woman.
MY ADVICE TO YOU
A curious woman is never bored!
So this is my advice. Be bold. Take risks. Don’t be confined. I know many of you haven’t lived out your own dreams because you are scared or stuck in your opinions and a set- way of life.
But NOW is Your Time…
The children have left. You may be retired. Maybe you are downsizing and moving. You have time for self-care. Be curious. Get familiar with your new needs and think outside the box. You have freedom. What are you going to do with your time? You are going to become a curious woman after 50 and beyond and until your last breath!
Here’s how you can be a curious woman after 50
- Curious Conversations. Ask questions of your friends and others. You will learn. Once I asked my friend about her upcoming trip to Dubai. She told me she and her husband were going to a Spa in the desert. My ultimate concierge and I were in Dubai a few years prior. We decided to go back that May. Because I had a conversation and was curious about her trip, look what I learned.
- Give Something New a Try. I started writing a journal in my sixties. Now I own an online magazine and I am a full-time writer. I understand the internet and social media platforms. All of this happened because I was not afraid to be curious to learn new skills. Here are some wonderful hobby ideas for women over 50.
- Don’t Be Afraid if You Stumble Into Something New. Open yourself up when you stumble, by chance, onto something. This has happened so many times in my life. I stumbled into forming my Focus Group. I invited a few women to a one-time meeting at my home because a young advertising man wanted to learn what women over 50 and beyond found interesting. After the meeting I was curious if women over 50 would like to meet monthly and discuss life issues. I thought about it for two weeks then said to myself, “Why not?!” I made the appropriate phone calls and not one woman turned me down. Our group survived until my ultimate concierge and I moved away.
- When a big problem strikes, don’t forget to practice self-care. Find an avenue that piques your fancy or return to your past pleasures.
THE TAKEAWAY
Remember, older is happier. Coco Chanel reminds us that “Nature gives you the face you have when you are twenty. Life shapes the face you have at thirty. But it is up to you to earn the face you have at fifty.” So my darling, don’t fear opening a new door. Pursue your passion. You don’t want to look back with regret, and you don’t want to look forward to nothing. Ride your wave. BE CURIOUS!
What’s one way you remain curious? Do you have any questions for me? Please share in the comment section below.
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I just discovered you and your website today and I’m very much enjoying reading your many posts! Thank you! In regards to this particular post, I watched American Idol back in 2009 and became an instant fan of one of the contestants, Adam Lambert. He has his own music, of course, and also is the lead singer for Queen, and has been for a few years now. They have toured all over the world (to sold out audiences) and I have seen both Adam alone and with Queen several times. When my husband can’t or won’t accompany me, I go alone. I have made friends from all over the world because of this fandom and this is my joy!! Aside from my family, of course, which is my priority. I have always loved concerts and these concerts top the list! BEST concerts ever and I never tire of them! Along with enjoying the concerts, it is so rewarding to celebrate with my many new friends (as we meet up at, before and after the concerts).. Such fun!
Throughout my life, my motto has been ‘I’ll try anything once’, within legal limits, of course. Experiences, foods, literature, art – whatever – anything to get me out of my comfort zones to expand my horizons. And I continue to do so. Got my pilots licence in my 20’s; I have done scuba diving, sky diving, rock climbing, got my motorcycle license and did the roads in numerous state; learned equestrian, learned and did the many how-to’s in home construction/remodelling, took a class on automotive repair, and even some fun stuff like tap and ballroom dancing.. Heading into my 60s, started pole dancing at 62, martial arts at 61, Just last month started taking Tarot classes and learning astrology, and will be volunteering with animal care on a local farm.
I also like to see new places. Although I haven’t been able to go on vacations or trips for a very very long time (last one was in ’92), I have moved a couple times during those years. And one of the things I LOVE to do is explore my own ‘backyard’. Jump in the car and just go – the next town over, or one that is 50 miles away or even 75 or 100. But on that day, just drive to that new town where I haven’t been before, and explore it – it’s parks, restaurants, bakeries, shops, the attractions and history. Every state has hundreds and hundreds of towns – very small (downtown is 3 blocks long) and medium sized. Here in our state, some are in the desert areas, some are on the ocean. But each one is like a mini day adventure.
Another thing I do is head out and drive the roads around my home – exploring – where does this street go and what is on it? And, finally, if I am zipping down the freeway and miss my exit – no bit deal, take the next one – you can always turn around or find a new adventure.
There is always something new to learn, see, experience – just have to be open to it.
You have been blessed with the curiosity gene! You have traveled far and wide sine ’92, you did not go far but you traveled and learned and enjoyed and probably learned more than those who fly to Europe. Good for you. I applaud you. Warmly, Honey
I’m 63 and attending yoga teacher certification!
That is marvelous. I am sure you feel a sense of satisfaction and joy.Warmly, Honey
I anxiously await your tips for starting a focus group of women.
If you wish to start your own I would advise no more than 10 women. On your first meeting, decide as a group that you will meet on a certain day of the week once a month. My group meets for 2 hours on the first Wed. of each month. You should be the leader but your group may want to have a different leader a month at a different home. We meet each month at 10:00 am at my home. I serve coffee, tea and water and donuts or muffins. We sit around my dining room table. I prepare the discussion each month but as a group, we decide on the topic or topics. I may be doing a tutorial on Focus Groups in the near future or have Honey Groups with tutorials I just wanted to give you a few tips. I hope this helps. Warmly, Honey