I loved writing this post on how to feel sexy after 50. I hope you’ll love it too, darlings! And more importantly, that you’ll feel inspired.
I asked my ultimate concierge what makes a woman sexy after 50…
He answered, “How she carries and presents herself.”
“Be more specific,” I replied.
He answered, “You. The whole package.”
I gave him a kiss and thanked him for adoring me. His description of what makes a woman sexy after 50, “the whole package,” is spot on.
FEELING SEXY AFTER 50 IS BELIEVING IN YOUR “WHOLE PACKAGE”
I am aware that many women after 50 feel invisible. They think they have lost their sex appeal. They notice the lack of stares as they walk down the street. Our culture has been the culprit. Bluntly put, older women haven’t been en vogue.
Marketing has changed direction, my darlings. Have you noticed? Older women are now en vogue! Younger people realize we have something to say and so much to offer!
70 IS THE NEW 50, 60 IS THE NEW 40, AND SO ON…
We have been welcomed back into American society as “visible, vibrant, and sexy women over 50.” Embrace this welcome turn of events with your head held high and in perfect posture. Walk down the street with a smile on your face. And feel sexy and vibrant because you, my darlings, are worthy of attention! Women over 50 are in!
For the thousands of you who are feeling invisible and sexless because of your age, now is the time to rejuvenate. Not only your appearance but your attitude. Just as thousands of other women over 50 have done.
I have a few personal thoughts on how to be a visible, vibrant, sexy woman after 50. As my Ultimate Concierge wisely said, “It’s the whole package.”
If you feel you have lost your visibility and sex appeal, is it because you are unable to embrace your age? Or because you need a life change?
MAKE A PLAN
If you are one of the thousands who feel they have lost their vibrancy and sex appeal, you know that you, and you alone. More importantly, you are in control of making that important shift in your life. You have choices.
It’s time to take note of your options and make a plan (here are my tips to build your self-confidence). It’s time to feel your sex appeal. A woman who feels sexy is sexy.
You are the “in” generation now! Grey hair is in, maturity is in style, older women are featured in magazines and big-brand ads. There are a million products, gyms, nutritionists, dermatologists, and stylists in every city. Your excuses have vanished.
Do you think you look great and are in good shape, yet feel you have lost your sex appeal, visibility, and vitality? Then it’s time to look within yourself and figure out the cause. Might it be that you need a purpose? The ball is in your court. Make that plan.
Read this post on body confidence, it has the best tips!
IT’S ATTITUDE, DARLINGS!
I have written about the importance of a woman’s inner beauty. I will always believe that 80% of your beauty and sex appeal comes from within. The remaining 20% is your “look.”
A woman’s attitude — her moxie — gives her confidence. Her femininity and grace and loving manner are great attributes. Her smile and warmth attract others of all ages.
Enthusiasm, curiosity, and purpose radiate attractiveness and, yes, sexiness. Combining that inner being with her outer look makes her one hell of a visible, vibrant, and sexy woman with verve! That will make you sexy after 50.
I am smiling!
Sure, we all have those days when we feel overwhelmed and we need a “little lift.” I suggest a boost from the outside. Shop for a new red lipstick or make an appointment for a massage. Change your hairstyle, wear lingerie even if no one will see it. When I am feeling out of sorts, a phone call to a best girlfriend always lifts my spirits.
You don’t have to worry that it’s only traditionally “beautiful” women who have a ticket to visibility and sex appeal. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Put that smile on your face and care about others. That is how to be — and remain — a sexy woman over 50.
BE SEXY AFTER 50 – FOLLOW AND MAINTAIN A FORMULA
Older women who are determined to maintain their visibility and sexuality do this. The key is to define, follow, and stick to a formula that works for you. And, if you do, a little voice inside will say, “I like the woman I have become.”
That is the ultimate in sex appeal, darlings. That is confidence. Confidence is the key to feeling sexy after 50!
So I ask you to find your formula. No one formula fits all. But you know what you have to do. Hopefully, you will.
It may be a life-altering change. Or it may be an attitude change. It may be time to put yourself first and take care of yourself. Or it may be all three.
ASK YOURSELF IF YOU’D LIKE TO BE 40 AGAIN
I think if you ask yourself that question you may learn more about yourself.
Would I rather be in my 40s again? In all honesty, I would like to go back in time, but not for the reasons you think. My experiences have been both marvelous and devastating. They have molded my inner being and made me a loving, confident, content, and proud older woman… with grey hair!
Why would I like to go back in time?
I would like to relive every day beginning with the first day I met my ultimate concierge. I wish I could repeat every minute of every day with him. He fills me up in every way and, darlings, he tells and shows me I’m sexy!
What makes you feel sexy after 50? Let me know if the comments at the bottom of this page!
Would you agree that wonderful people are fabulous accessories? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Join the conversation in the comments below.
Great article with lots of good advice!!
Thank you, Carlene. We will have more. Warmly,Honey
stepping up to make 50 my new start ,taking your advice being divorced last year hurt the self esteem and im going to put it back !!
Good for you …you go girl! I know you will. I am smiling. Warmly, Honey
Dear Honey,
“Coastal Grandmas” are the latest trend. I fit into that group. It is very funny and an off shot of Nancy Meyers films. Diane Keaton, Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda are the icons of the style. We do it all. As you mentioned, the younger women are looking up to us. Finally, some attention to our beauty and ways of living! Women all over the country can live this way with confidence. Check it out!
Robbin Close
California
Thank you for sharing and reading and liking. Warmly, Honey
Great article!!
Thank you so much. Warmly, Honey
Stay positive, be happy, keep learning!
Do yoga, eat healthy, stay hydrated.
Walk tall and with a purpose, be yourself 🥰
Right on Carole. You got it!!!! Warmly,Honey
Loved your thoughts and your husbands definition….”it’s the the whole package”! So so true! I am smiling!!
I am smiling back.Warmly, Honey
The day I turned 40 I stayed in my bed and sulked all day. This past December I turned 50 and I don’t even comb my hair some times. Just get up and go. ” The old me wouldnt check the mailbox with out being dressed like a celebrity. “Everyone that didnt know me would think I was headed to some place of major importance when actually, I was just headed to Wal-Mart because I was low on detergent. ( I wore heels everyday, I even mopped the floor in them.)
I MISS THAT DIVA! Please someone tell me how to get her back.
Everyone tells me how young I look and I thank them, but that still doesnt hide the reality of me being 50! And as a constant reminder of my age all of the people that are the age I want to be have started calling me “Ma’am” Its like a slap in face with reality.
50 is the start of bigger and better things. You are wiser. You are in full bloom. Start by taking care of yourself. Work out. Get your hair done. Go for a manicure and pedicure. And, seek a therapist if you think you are depressed. Your 50th year is ‘all about you’ adjusting to your 50’s in a positive way. That is my advice. Warmly and in friendship, Honey