Darlings, today’s blog is written by the wonderful dating and romance expert, Lisa Copeland. I understand that many people struggle with dating. However, after 50, dating can be especially tiring. In this article, Lisa delves into the traits women share when they are successful in the dating world. Enjoy!
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Dating After 50 Can Be Hard Work
For most women, finding the right person to date or marry after 50 can be frustrating and tiresome.
However, I’ve found that finding the right person for you can be easier when you have certain traits that will make your dating experience, and life experience much easier. In fact, in my experience, women who share these 10 most common traits have the best dating life and are able to attract high-quality men.
Now, what traits do I speak of? Let’s take a look!
#1…Women who are happily dating feel really great about themselves
Women who feel great about themselves lead active lives.
This makes them exciting, passionate and interesting to men. This type of woman will make space for a man and the life they’ll lead together. However, they will not give up themselves and the activities they love just to please him.
#2…They know how to get in touch with their girly-girlness
I like to call girly-girlness a woman’s true feminine power. This trait has men jumping at the chance to date them.
Here’s the key to knowing how girly-girl you are…
Do you want the man in your life to respect or cherish you above all? If you said cherish, you’re are probably in touch with your inner girly-girl.
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#3…Women who know and speak the language men can hear have a huge advantage
Many times, if a woman shares the types of stories with their man that they’d share with their girlfriend, one will likely lose him right off the bat.
Men can’t follow what your sister’s best friend’s husband did with his wife. Save that for processing over drinks on your girls’ night out.
#4….Ever watch one of my favorite movies, “Gone With The Wind”?
Before Rhett Butler came along, Scarlett O’Hara could have written the book on how to let a man be a man. For instance…
It didn’t matter what a man did for her…. she appreciated him and refrained from criticizing or telling him how to do his job.
Both of these are huge keys into a man’s psyche.
#5….My clients who found great guys online had AWESOME profiles!
These women had the type of profile that drew quality men in by using a story men could imagine themselves in.
True, they worked with me on creating their profiles, which helped because I showed them what to do to weed out the guys they didn’t want to meet.
#6…Women who meet good matches online are willing to look beyond the selfies, the motorcycles and the guys who post pictures with other women.
Online dating is one-dimensional…meaning you can’t see how a man’s personality and looks blend together to form a real person.
You want to take the time to read profiles. Also, look at the environment surrounding him in his picture. This can also give you an idea of who he is.
#7…Women who have the most fun dating go on a date looking to meet someone new and interesting.
They don’t do an interview and they don’t check off an imaginary “must-have” checklist that knocks guys off faster than you can drink a cup of coffee. There are good guys out there who could be your friend too.
And who knows? Sometimes a friend can become the one. You’ll never know unless you give that nice guy a chance.
#8…Women who date men who aren’t their usual type find there are far more good men out there to date than they ever imagined
It’s easy to get in a rut, dating the same guy over and over again, just with different clothes.
You’re attracted to him not because he’s good for you but because he feels safe and comfy like that old pair of shoes you can’t seem to throw away.
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#9…To be successful at dating over 50, you have to keep at it
A BIG mistake women make is giving up on dating after 5 dates with 5 not so great guys.
Keep getting out there meeting those new and interesting men we talked about in #7.
Try new dating sites. There are a lot of niche sites out there that cater to different interests you might have.
#10…The women who have the most fun dating and meeting Mr. Right got help when they needed it.
They recognized they couldn’t do it all alone.
Whether they read my blog, coached with me one-on-one or in a group, what made the difference is they took action to get the advice they needed. And then, they used what they learned in our time together to meet the right guy for them.
What would you like to know about dating over 50? Please leave your comments below. We’d love to hear from you!
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50’s dating. She’s the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, “5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man,” visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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