A darling wrote to me a few days ago asking about my age. It took me less than a second to answer her, “I don’t associate with age. Age is merely a number. In wisdom, I think my spirit is old. However, based on my joie de vivre, I know I am young.”
This is how I feel every day of my life. Just imagine for a few minutes that your birth certificate did not exist. Based on the way you feel, what age would you give yourself?
Taking Care of Our Things Defeats Chronological Age
I drive a black two-door Lexus. It is a hardtop convertible that is 20 years old. The chronological age (or actual age) does not matter. I think my car is beautiful. It was a special edition and Lexus no longer produces this model. Although it is 20 years old, it’s still in high demand. My car looks and drives like a new automobile because I take care of it.
I have a beautiful gold Cartier watch with a diamond bezel that is over 30 years old. I took it in to be checked and the gentleman behind the counter told me this style of watch has been discontinued but is in high demand. It keeps time perfectly and glimmers on the outside because I take care of it. When we take care of our things–including our bodies–age is just a number.
8 Easy Steps I Use to Take Care of Myself
Do you take care of your body? For those of you who do, please share your secrets with me. I would love to know your tips in the comments below! Here are mine:
1. Walk Whenever Possible
I walk America daily, which is a great way to get in my exercise and enjoy the wonderful outdoors at the same time.
2. Use Your Scale or Run Out and Buy One
This will help you keep a decent weight. My scale keeps me disciplined. I weigh myself daily and when I am up a few pounds, I force myself to cut back when eating and I dedicate extra time to walking. You notice I chose the word force, as we are the ones who need to take the responsibility to care for ourselves. While sometimes it can be hard for us to put on the brakes, I keep light snacks like SkinnyPop popcorn in our home to nosh on so I’m satisfied while staying healthy.
3. Become Overly Observant of the Importance of Routine Exams and Screenings
This discipline has saved my life three times. I am the opposite of a hypochondriac, therefore, I am not eager to make doctor appointments. Actually, I am afraid. Nevertheless, I force myself, darlings–and you must too.
4. Don’t Smoke
If you do smoke, I advise you to seek help and get on a path to quitting.
5. Limit Your Alcohol Consumption
If you drink alcohol, they say not more than two drinks a day or 5 ounces of wine and 1.5 ounces of liquor. I have a glass of wine or a cocktail when my ultimate concierge and I go out for dinner. However, I don’t partake in wine or cocktails at home.
6. Sleep, My Darlings!
Try to get at least seven or eight hours each night. Sadly. I have to give myself an F in the sleep department. I used to be the greatest sleeper. But recently, the wheels in my head will not stop. While I am not tired, this is not healthy for my immune system or yours if you are copying me. I don’t know what the answer is and I keep hoping this is just a phase (If you have great girlfriend advice for me, please share it in the comments!)
7. Water Washes Away Chronological Age
Drinking plain water has never been easy for me. To help me reach adequate hydration, I have a large container filled with hot water and a squeeze of a lemon wedge that I carry with me when I am home. I do enjoy sparkling water and I also eat lots of tomatoes because I read they are filled with water.
8. Take Care of Yourself The Same Way You’ve Cared For Your Children and Grands
As mothers and grandmothers we have a tendency to care for everyone around us and forget to put on our own oxygen mask! Remember that your health is important too. When you take care of your body, your mind and soul will experience a joie de vivre.
Chronological Age is Just a Number: Attitude Counts
Our minds and souls are the windows of how we interpret aging. It is all attitude, darlings. My mindset doesn’t often think about my chronological age. In other words, my actual age does not affect my daily lifestyle, a lifestyle that overflows with joie de vivre especially when I am with my ultimate concierge, my pooch America, people young and old, nature and when I am alone writing. I don’t think much about myself. Maybe that is one of the reasons I don’t think much about aging. I am too busy staying curious, experiencing new avenues, helping others and enjoying all the little things that are important to me.
Therefore, I don’t embrace the aging process or aging for that matter. Instead, I embrace life! I am still on the hunt, continuing to gain wisdom, which is a satisfying and exuberant feeling.
Life is filled with incredible moments and I take all I can from the joy this very minute of the strong wind keeping rhythm with my fingers on my keyboard to my husband sleeping beside me and my pooch on my other side, to the darkness and stillness of the night aside from the light of my computer screen and the whispers of the wind outside. I am grateful and feeling in love. Who has time to think about age?
Consider how you can reap your joie de vivre and stop thinking about your chronological age. Life is here for the taking and I suggest you take all that you can. Sit down and make a list of your dreams. Then hitch yourself to your star and soar!
What are the rules you follow to take care of your self? I’d love to learn from any life hacks you practice in the comments below!
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Love, love love this article, Almost brought me to tears as I feel as you do, and often wondered if I should be embracing “age” or “life.” I have always chosen “life”. When I read your words I experienced an immediate rush of confirmation that I am
“spot on” in my thinking and my attitude. Thank you sweet lady.
I know the feeling. Always or almost always go with your feelings. Warmly, Honey
Age is a number and mine is unlisted ..
I am smiling. Warmly, Honey
I eat a plant based diet with the exception of fresh cold water fish. Yoga before I start my day. Also, vitimins supplements that I feel are appropiate. I begin each day with spiritual time…prayer and journaling.
You forgot to mention if you are enjoying ‘life.’ “:-) Warmly, Honey
I discovered a product named Calm. It is powdered magnesium with lemon raspberry flavor. Mix 2 teaspoons full in a glass of water
(I use sparkling water cold from fridge) and sip it before bed. It tastes really good and helps me sleep. You can get it from amazon.
Oh! Thank you very much!!!! I am heading to Amazon! Warmly, Honey
I totally agree with you, Honey!! I already follow most of your steps, and certainly don’t feel my age of 73. My husband is 59, and we’ve been together for over 22 years. Some people think he’s older than me, but that’s because I’m the one with the younger spirit! So, after reading Honey’s article this morning, I’ve decided to drop my membership to the local senior center, and start that acupuncture facelift I’ve been thinking about. That should help my spirit feel even younger. Thanks, Honey!!
I love it!!! Love it. You go girl. Warmly, Honey
Dearest Susan Honey Good~ This is the first time I’ve read anything by you. What a delight you are 🧚♀️ You made my heart sing today 💕🎶
Most Sincerely,
Carla 🦋💕🎶🧚♀️
Oh thank you very much. I love emoji’s as I see you do.Your words made my heart sing.Thank you again for your kind words. Keep writing to me when you feel in the mood. Warmly, Honey🌈🌺🦋🌈💕
Great blog. Filled with encouragement for women who do not associate with years while continuing to enjoy experiences.
Yoga. I have been doing yoga for over 50 years. Attitude and positive thinking. I think I’m 40 even though I’m 82. I belong to a book club and a knitting group. Should I admit I have a younger lover. No one believes I’m 82. Not even my doctors.
Of course you should admit you have a younger lover. Lucky you!!!! Remember: age is just a number. Warmly, Honey
This is so freeing!!! I’ve always found the bondage to age appropriateness to be a negative rather than a positive. Many well intentioned people with their version of what is appropriate don’t realize how judgmental this is.
Thank You again Honey for a forward thinking and inspirational article.
Susan
I am smiling. I am thrilled that you ‘get it’ now. Now, don’t ‘forget it.’ Warmly, Honey
Love this! So uplifting. I follow many of the steps you mention….and sometimes have the sleepless moments (that’s when I catch up on reading, emails, Facebook & some of your blogs)!! 😊
You are not alone being up in the middle of the night. I emailed seven friends in the middle of the night and within a few minutes I heard seven pings on my computer. Everyone was up!!!! I am glad you read Honey Good. Thank you so much. Warmly, Honey
Do not change ‘your style’ for anyone other than yourself. Go girl!
Loved the article, needed it today as I am suffering with Rhumatoid in addition to a bad cold and feel like a dinosaur”! Thank you Honey!
You are so welcome. Your cold will pass and now remember even with your pain, that age is just a number. Warmly, Honey
Thank you for this! Very inspirational!!!
I am glad I inspired you!!!! Makes me happy!
Another fabulous article, and yet more proof that you (Honey) and I may be kindred spirits. I too think I’m an “old soul” with a young outlook. I too often tell people “age is just a number,” and if someone asks the number I usually tell them (unless I feel like funning with them and say ” what age do you think I am?”). Good advice herein, Honey!!
I think we are kindred spirits. And, there are a lot more of us out there. We have to pass our positivity onto others. Warmly, Honey
pay attention to your circadian rhythm. older people need to go to sleep earlier and wake up earlier, hence, the early bird special! it is odd at first but you get great sleep. 8-4 or 9-5. try and no naps.
Thank you for your advice. I will try. I am an early riser. Warmly, Honey
Honey, I’ve enjoyed your posts for quite awhile. You’re always uplifting and inspiring. I think we have several things in common. I care for my husband of 59 years as he has many health problems. I also have a 2009 silver Lexus hardtop convertible that looks new. I feel young most of the time and try to do all of the things you recommend. I have tried many things for sleep and for now, extended release 4 mg melatonin is working for me. Take care and keep inspiring us!
We do have things in common! How special. I will try the melatonin. I have it but never tried one. Thank you. Warmly, Honey
Dat Honey Good,
I love your uplifting insights and love that you are a strong woman. I understand your thoughts and I agree; I do take it a step farther and embrace my age and am proud to be 73 (74 in 2 weeks). When I tell someone my age I hope they can see how important it is to be young in body and mind forever.
You are an inspiration. Keep sending your loving insights.
Several times you have mentioned a multi generational group of women and I want to start one meeting here in my home. Please give me tips on how to begin and how to guide such a group and discussions.
Maybe you would come and help me get started. I am in a little town of Cornelius outside of Charlotte NC.
Lovingly, Jeanne
Thank you. I just read that Charlotte is the best city to live in! Lucky you. I am stuck in Chicago that used to be, ‘my kind of town.’ No longer. But, I am happy.And, I adore my Lexus. When I put my multigenerational group together I asked women I knew of different ages. But, they were not close friends with one another. I started by thanking them for coming to my home, for me. I then had them go around the setting and tell each other about themselves. That did it. They never stopped talking and did not want to break up the meeting! There ages were 27-96. Warmly, Honey
Thank you so much. I have always felt that way. Lately living in a 55 active adult community it sometimes make me feel I shouldn’t feel this way. I have girlfriend for many years. For the past maybe ten years she tells me I am not accepting I’m getting older. I have been pushing away. I love life I exercise and enjoy my weekends out with my husband. Thank you for your article. 🙏🏻❤️
Do not change ‘your style’ for anyone! You go, girl. Warmly, Honey
Thank you so much for your article. So true. I feel the same way. Yet a close friend who definitely has been bringing me down lately says I am avoiding the truth about getting old. I feel young and hope to have many more years of fun. So enjoy going out and love shopping. You made my day❤️👍🏻
I think I have written to you more than once but want to make sure. Do not change ‘your style’ for anyone. You, go girl. Warmly, Honey